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It's great to not be 'chained by societal expectations' - but some people want to look like the traditional American 2023 cisgender man. That's not being chained by societal expectations, that's expressing our gender identity the way we want to. Let us have our space and our discussions without subtly acting like being non-binary is morally superior to being binary.
As a transman 3 years on T I don't even agree with some of his advice, but it's important for transmen to be able to have these sorts of conversations and give-and-take without everyone breathing down our necks.
Reminds me of an ace poster here the other day who was acting like it's gross and unfathomable that people are attracted to other people's bodies. You're not superior because you're ace.
I didn't mean to imply that being non binary is superior. The reason I mentioned it was to show my limitations. I said I had never had to pass to make explicit that I'm speaking without having this experience, without a particular struggle that may be vital to read the author correctly. The chains are the invisible expectations we impose to those around us. I believe in choice, and I believe in the author's choice. I don't believe in upsetting people, but I'll do that from time to time.
Can I ask why you felt the need to comment something so dismissive and negative when you also readily admit that this just isn't targeted at you? I just want to understand. I don't think you intend to be hurtful, but that is indeed what's happening. Having to pass on the binary is a safety issue for a lot of trans people just as much as it's affirming and euphoric.