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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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I don't think cis people understand the joy of finally embodying the correct gender. Maybe they do, but they don't have the comparative experience. I feel a little sorry for them that they won't ever experience it, and I think they'd be more understanding of us if they did.
Fwiw, we can have that moment of completion (for lack of a better phrase). But it's usually not after as long period of incongruity, and that does make comparison difficult.
As an example, a lot of young cis people have to discover what being their gender really means, how they are going to fit themselves into their gender. It's definitely not as broad an experience as what I've seen and heard from trans people, but it is certainly a similarity to use for finding understanding.
Because we don't have that sort of impossible to self realize barrier that trans people have, I don't think the sense of completion will ever feel as powerful, and I agree that it isn't a truly comparitive experience. For us (me) it's more about expanding into a realization of the self that's balanced between external expectations and internal pressure.
I can remember the first time I became aware the fact of trans experience. It was confusing, and I've made errors over the decades in seeking understanding. It's one of those things where you try to truly empathize, as well as gain intellectual understanding, and it takes steps, a series of enlightenments to get closer.
Which is a long winded way of saying that there are more similarities than most people realize, but that you're right that when cis folks do figure out the similarities in experience it can, and will, lead to better understanding.
That is a good point. Almost as if being cis is taken for granted. Like its an automatic state of self. "Of course I'm my AGAB" but they never experience the relief and happiness that comes from finally being your true self.
I personally don't think i understand joy at all lol
As a "cis" guy I honestly envy people who know who they are and live that life. I don't know "what" I am at all, all I know is I don't seem to belong anywhere lol