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It was long distance.... we would talk for like 8 hours a day sometimes. One time we talked for 14 hours out of the day. (Had phone sex a few times)

And then poof I long on today and she deleted her telegram account.

Right after giving me a huge list of book reccomendations and everything. To read and listen to

She did speak about getting worried we were getting romantic for each other too quickly and that we were getting too invested in each other. We had a connection she said but that I should focus on my drug treatment and her on her studies

I just don't know why she randomly deleted it... the only thing I can think is that she knew that's the only way she could stop us

Hurts guys it really really hurts. I'm about to cry

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I think she was scared of getting close to anyone at the moment regardless of whatever. We talked for fucking hours.. one time for 14 hours... we had phone sex lame as it is... and both climaxed on the phone together. So she was interested she said she liked my accent... she cried tears of appreciation one time because she was drunk on the phone and I didn't try to take advantage of her by getting nude pics in that state.

As lame as that sounds it was a really nice moment and I had that warm butterfly moment in my stomach the whole time. I have no idea what changed....

I have to think she was just scared of how close a "long distance relationship" was getting

God I'll miss her so much, God it hurts

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I have to think she was just scared of how close a "long distance relationship" was getting

I don’t have too much experience with this. My first girlfriend broke up with me because we were going to different colleges on the opposite sides of the state. We could’ve made it worked with some long driving - specifically, I was the one who suggested it would work - but she said we should seek people we can see more often.

I’m lucky I haven’t gotten close yet. But I’m glad we broke it off quickly because I don’t think I would’ve been too happy with the long distance.

It sounds like you were more than happy with the arrangement, but at the time, you said you guys were “obsessed” with each other. Maybe it’s the honeymoon phase, but if you two were truly obsessed then that’s not necessarily a great thing for a relationship.

God I'll miss her so much, God it hurts

For sure it’s going to hurt. I know you liked each other and all, but eventually that obsession has to go subside. If you both become uncomfortable with the distance, it may lead to other less desirable outcomes. The same thing if it’s a one sided like it is in this situation. She could’ve handled it a little more maturely, but I think if this continued you both would’ve been hurt.

It seems like she needed someone with her physically, and you needed someone emotionally. If that’s the case, she would’ve ended up the wrong person for your needs. Like in my case, I needed someone - anyone - to be with me in any way. But my ex needed someone to be with physically. Our needs conflicted and would’ve exacerbated had it continued.

You’ll find someone again. You said she brought this up recently. Maybe you could discuss your needs with the next person so you can decide whether it’s worth investing your time. But take your time now and distract yourself for a bit.