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Not everyone is treated the same way. Queer folks get marginalized in plenty of ways that cis/straight folks do not. Queer relationships in their very nature cannot mirror cis/straight relationships, either. It is entirely unsurprising that relationship dynamics would be different, and this comment dismisses all of this and minimizes the importance of queer representation in media.
I'm leaving your comment up because I think conversation on why and how queers experience differing relationships is important, but I do need to remind you that our only rule on beehaw is to be nice and this comment isn't particularly nice.
Im hetcis and still remember broking up with my gf and receiving support from all my friend and family, while my lesbian friend only had just me and another friend to support her, because her family didn't believe her she was lesbian ("is just a phase" bullshit). It was obviously way harder for her, with her family basically saying that her feelings were invalid.
My breakups usually involve some level of internalised transphobia directed at me for being nonbinary. I've only ever dated fellow trans people, but, well, the patriarchal brainwashing goes deep. Usually my partners only notice their hangups after a month or so with me. The feelings are buried, and being with me unburies them. Sometimes the problems are solvable, often they are not.