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Posted this on shower thoughts but Ig here is more appropriate, I feel like lemmy is not the place I remember it being last year.

I really liked the atmosphere of civil arguments and understanding here, which is the reason I started posting actively as well, even though I have always been a lurker, but I feel like I have stopped feeling happy but instead more and more agitated when browsing, I remember people having civil discussions and willing to listen to others, content was low, but what each post produced was really high quality, nowadays though I rarely feel like it

People here have now started acting like as if they are some sort of god gifted individuals who are right in every regard, they love to throw the word ‘propaganda’ around but fail to acknowledge they could be a victim of it as well, I remember we could still have discussions about controversial topics without things getting ugly, nowadays it is not like that, comments get weirdly personal and sometimes even turn into insults and even phobic, people are hell-bent that they are right on certain issues, and never consider any other opinion or that something might be more nuanced than they think

I can be a victim of propaganda too, but what I really loved is that you were able to have healthy discussions and put forward your opinions, which meant you were much more aware of everybody elses opinion and their reasoning, which meant you could see things with different perspectives, nowadays though it is very different, you say something slightly controversial and be prepared for the hate comments (remember the mildy infuriating post? The guy ended up deleting it)

I have learned a lot from lemmy, and I have had wonderful conversations with some of you but I feel like the days where we all were collectively trying to build a good, happy and accepting community are gone, I won’t be surprised if any redditor looked us and thought we are a group of really closed minded people who wont accept anything that is not the common sentiment here

I was a little kid when reddit was gaining traction, so I have no Idea what sort of thing happened, maybe it was similar to this? I would really like if some early reddit adopters who also came here add their comments

One of my favorite moments I remember here is when there was some sort of meme about Ramadan, I clicked hesitantly thinking it’s gonna be a war zone, but I was surprised to see people having fun discussing how people deal with fasting where the sun never sets for months, that feeling was beautiful, I guarantee it will be a different situation now

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[–] [email protected] -2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It is not one particular comment that has upset me, its the degradation of the quality of discussions here, none from that specific thread, it was a controversial topic and I know I am putting my hand in fire, the comment that ‘upset’ me in the context you are asking is the one where the guy calls me butthurt for disagreeing with his opinion, it doesn’t upset me as much as it infuriates me, it’s not relevant to the question, it’s dumb and childish, and most of all it’s not how you make your point, but tbh I am glad it is there, it is the perfect summary of my whole rant above

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

the comment that ‘upset’ me in the context you are asking is the one where the guy calls me butthurt for disagreeing with his opinion

This is not in the context they were asking though, this happened as a response to your rant.
What some of us would want to have is documented examples of what caused you to write this post.

In a comment you complained about nobody having "shared their experience in a meaningful way", but you haven't shared anything concrete either.

In the post you said:

I remember we could still have discussions about controversial topics without things getting ugly

Yet to me things do not seem to have gotten ugly when you expressed a very controversial opinion in the "taliban" post. This is were concrete examples would help understanding your point.

Some users did disrepect you about this issue in this post, and I definitely do not support that ! In the end, you are a teen getting bullied (probably by adults) for having an opinion, and this is wrong no matter how bad the opinion is.