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Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn't necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven't ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don't hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I feel that your second sentence is too narrow. It goes beyond blaming a woman (or man). It includes society in general and/or any external construct or group. They may blame genetics, the patriarchy, feminism, or whatever other Boogeyman they want.

The underlying issue is that they are absolving themselves of any blame and refusing to accept themselves as the cause. It's unsurprising that this very concept is often a self perpetuating issue. Their incel mentality and refusal of accepting any responsibility pushes any potential women (or men) from a desire to be in a relationship with them. It also builds an "us vs them" mentality that is reinforced by the echo chamber communities they build for themselves.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

This is vey true, they have almost as much as a hate-on for sexually successful men ('chads') as they do women in general ('staceys')

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Yes, I suppose they can target basically any group, which makes my initial description too narrow. But I was focusing on addressing OP's concerns of misogyny, which is gender focused.

The echo chamber is a very big part of it, you're right. The more validation they receive for thinking that the "other people" are the problem, the more they think it's okay to do.