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How do you date?
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Attraction for me is more like waves. Like I meet someone new and there's just tons of different waves between us and some resonate internally with me and build up an anticipation and excitement. Over time this fluctuates a lot and there are also plenty of times where I need distance. For those feelings to really settle I need a lot of evidence. I need to feel safe and seen and I need to see emotional effort, like say take me to some place that's meaningful to them.
When it comes to dating, yes it changes a lot. Initially it's just dinner but later I want to go on walks and visit nice places. Eventually I'd like to have a peek into their lives for example friends and family and their home, hobbies etc.
As long as there are no red flags and it keeps developing emotionally and anticipation keeps building I am always up for more dates.
I only meet and date afk. Something like tinder always has seemed like a joke to me and I don't understand it. Ideally I see the person multiple times over several months with some flirting and then I know we can start dating. However if I meet someone at a random place and we spend some hours together it can go faster. Sometimes you just don't have the luxury of time, and taking chances is a part of life.
That's unique to every person. The person I'm dating right now impressed me when I met her because she was able to talk to everyone and really listen. And we had a great time dancing and talking and she seemed like someone with a lot of love in her heart. However if I'd have to pick a single trait it would be kindness and after that curiosity and playfulness.
It frustrates me when someone imposes expectations on the moment, rather than listening to their feelings.