This discourse was going around twitter today apparently and im curious takes from here.
Which is it for you?
For me i prefer playersexuality. I want to be able to romance any romance option regardless of my charachters gender. I dont want to be stuck with only Arcade Gannon if i want to do m/m
I agree that sexuality can be important to a charachter. But if you wanna do that, seems like the charachter can just not be a romance option.
That said. In RPGs devs can do what they want. You want a charachter to be monosexual and a romance option, have at it. (Unless theyre all straight, then fuck you).
I do kinda hate what The Sims did by adding monosexuality. Felt like such a virtue signal that made the game less fun. All Sims being pansexual was always more fun for me. Especially since i usually play that game as a pansexual slut. Unless i decide my player Sim is mono, but thats on the player's end.
Monosexual townies in the Sims should at least be optional (is it? Idk havent played Sims 4 since this update).
3 Houses is also interesting in that, like, you can make a solid case that Ingrid is gay but is restricted by her society's expectations for what it means to be a crested noble, especially a woman crested noble. The subtext with Felix and Sylvain is also pretty strong and along the same lines, as with why Gilbert left his family. Then there's Hubert and his devotion to a queer woman who wants to tear down the system causing people to repress like this.
There's a lot of writing just under the surface that has interesting things to say about queerness and what it means to dismantle the systems that suppress it that I wish had been much more explicit.