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Bachelorette parties are about being untoward, so that's why people are leaning into it.
You could still be right though. It may also be that her fiancee was controlling or shitty even if she didn't do anything "out of bounds," and that's what blew the relationship up.
It could have also been an abusive relationship being forced by her parents and family and the Bachelorette party was the cover for her extraction from that situation.
Tbch I'm wondering if that's the secret girl code reason why the bachelorette party exists in the first place, so that the bride to be has an opportunity to veto the marriage and escape the family that was pressuring her into it.
I don't dont think its generally that deep. Most people like to party, and the "marriage send off" is generally considered a wildly bacchanal one, if not outright hedonistic, at least for everyone else attending.
The intended lack of inhibitions probably does cause issues to bubble up, and it honestly likely ends relationships that probably should be ended, even if the people involved won't acknowledge that sober.
I also wouldn't be surprised of it is used as an escape hatch by some, perhaps by "unintentional" behavior that can be blamed on the party itself.
My friend's fiance was like that. I thought she should've canceled the wedding after the way he acted during her bachelorette party. He insisted it be a joint event with the bachelor party and then picked fights over everything she did. He called her a slut in front of everyone (meanwhile, she found condoms - which they didn't use - in his bag a few days earlier) and was generally a complete asshat. I would've been thrilled to see that notification.