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How are cishet people viewed in general in the LGBTQ community? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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First of all I'd like to apologize in advance for any insensitive statements I might make (I hope I don't though), I'm trying my best not to and I was just curious :)

I'm an 18-year-old cishet guy currently in uni and recently the thought popped into my head that I have no clue how the LGBTQ community would view me as someone who's not in the space or actively an ally. I would more accurately describe myself currently as a "don't care" person in the sense that to me it genuinely does not matter what someone identifies as or who someone is attracted to. I don't know how much this means, but I have multiple gay friends, my roommate is bi and I dated a person who went as a girl in day to day life because it was more convenient to her/them although she/they told me she/they partially identified as nonbinary (correct pronoun usage pls >.<) but I don't know if all this is the classic "but i have a black friend" argument that racists use.

To cut to the point: I'm curious as to how I would be seen by queer people in general, as I've witnessed both very inclusive and nice people (mostly here), but also some that said that LGBTQ places are not to be used by cishet people and I'm wondering what the best attitude to take would be.

Thanks!

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I don't mind straight people at all, same as queer people. We're all just people, man! Whenever I see a couple holding hands, irrespective of sex, gender, etc, it reminds me of my bf and I holding hands. Gives me a huge love attack (what my fam describes as a burst of love, hahah). I'm bi and every couple reminds me of my bf and I :)

When I came out, I realized that guys/gals/nb+ people are all the same, really. Love is the same. Sex is extremely similar, which was almost a bit of a bummer after certain angry groups hyped it up for so long. Regardless of who you date, people love it when you do chores out of love for them or take them out for your anniversary. It really rubs me the wrong way when queer people crack on straight people for the silly stuff that doesn't matter, because the human experience is so insanely similar regardless.

I don't even really think about it much anymore, as I can live my life the same as any other person or couple. Basically the universal rule of "be kind to others" applies uniformly here, to everyone. And honestly, you are welcome in LGBTQ spaces too, some of the gay bars or nude beaches are all together too much fun to miss just because you might love someone a bit differently. Maybe just slap a lil ally pride pin on if you don't wanna have repeated convos about which team you bat for xD