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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/anon-ymous12 on 2023-09-09 21:59:52.

So basically I do not know my baby dad’s family. I have not met them at all. The only communication or contact I’ve ever had with them are over the phone. They live in a different state than I do and between work & appointments we never actually had time to meet. Well my baby’s father was on the phone with his sister & she said when I go into labor she’s coming up to the hospital along with his side of the family and is going to be in the room with me when I give birth. She never asked me or anything just stated they WERE going to be there. Now I personally don’t want a whole bunch of people to be at the hospital and around my child when he’s first born let alone in the room when I’m actually delivering. I just want my baby’s father in the room and my mother there for support. Other than that I don’t want anyone else there, Including my family. My child’s father said it’s unfair because I’m trying to hold our child away from his side of the family & they’re excited too. I just want my mom & my child’s father there when I’m delivering & then the first few weeks to myself so I can adjust to being a new parent. Breastfeeding, bonding, recovering, ect. I feel like those first few weeks to a month are very critical after having a child and I don’t want to be bombarded or overwhelmed by a lot of visitors. & plus I’m having my child in the middle of RSV season & do not want to risk my newborns health or my recovery just because people want to see him. I completely understand that everyone will be excited and want to meet my son, & I don’t want to withhold that from them, but I just feel like it would be best to wait & not parade my child around to a whole bunch of people, especially those that I have not met. I know I’m not TA for wanting to wait before everyone meets him but I just feel like people will be upset/offended & I don’t want that to happen. I feel as if they might undermine my decision and show up anyway & that would cause turmoil, I mean They will definitely be able to meet him eventually but until then What are some respectful ways I can let everyone know that I do not want visitors at the hospital & I want the first few weeks to myself so that I am not overwhelmed and neither is my son? (When I say the first few weeks to myself I mean just my child’s father & I with our baby.) Edit: some people have asked how long I have until I give birth and it’s literally only 11 weeks left until I welcome my son into this world.