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In early May my gf of 4 years broke up with me and at the end of May she moved back to her home country. Since then I've been Doing my best to move on like seeing counselors/therapist and taking plenty of time for myself and so far most days I'm doing alright but with her gone I have a constant dread of loneliness and helplessness as right now I just don't really have any future. no goals or major wants and I'm not really sure where to go from here.

I live in a very small and technically isolated town where the only things to really do is either walk around town or go to one of the many bars. I don't drink and can't even hear in bars so that's a no go. There's a few sport things that are mainly for the kids and we'll... I'm not into sports of any sort. So my options for meeting anyone are pretty limited. As in I can either loiter at a Tim Hortons or I can spend time at the gym in town which both don't really hold much value for meeting people.

Originally, with my now ex, we had planned to move to a city where we could actually do things and have opportunities. We had been working towards it for a while and now that's completely dead in the water...

I don't really have any friends in this place and idk what else to do to meet new people since there really isn't any opportunities to do so. It's also not the easiest place to get out of because everything is marked up so far above msrp that it's a struggle to even barely survive with a well paying job. I know it's bad everywhere right now but it's especially bad here as prices are still double if not quadrupled compared to everywhere else.

So right now I have no idea what to do. I'm surviving one day at a time with my dog. I want to meet new people and get the fuck out of this town but everything has been such a dead end here that so far my one chance of hope has left me.

I want to know what others might suggest. I have Adhd and struggle with large gatherings and hearing people but I still try my best and I want to at least make a couple new friends. I just don't know how right now.

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[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Aside from all the other great tips offered in this thread, I'd recommend meditation (https://www.additudemag.com/how-to-meditate-for-adhd-symptoms/) and perhaps yoga. After my previous breakup focusing on my body and mind really helped me keep my head above water.

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