I experienced a gay sauna for the first time a couple of days ago. I was anxious for a few minutes, until I got a feel for the place and let my towel expose me a bit. I had two encounters and both were fantastic. (If you're following my previous post, I'm in the very beginning stages still...) However, both times, my partner expected kissing, naturally. But I have always had an aversion to tongues and kissing in general. This confirmed it. Interlocking tongues with another human is not my thing. It feels disgusting and I was cringing a bit during that part. (I say this but I was the bottom...) I felt strange saying that I don't kiss, but maybe that's acceptable just like any other boundary. I am wondering, though, if it is possible to get over it.
I can't say for most people, but I would totally get it and have no trouble respecting this boundary if you just were honest about it. Some things humans do is gross. Sometimes even too gross for other humans. ๐