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People with custom pronouns, how do you prefer to be addressed? (she/they for example) (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

If it’s offensive to refer to people who prefer “they/then” as “she”, then it’s offensive to refer to someone who prefers “she/her” as “they”.

And this isn’t just on principle either. I know a cis heterosexual woman who has short, but still feminine hair and tattoos and people repeatedly call her “they” sometimes and it bothers her. And it’s weird because the solid odds are that she prefers “she/her” but people call her “they” which points out that she doesn’t look conventional.

Edit: the best thing you can do is to ask literally everyone you meet, or just use he or her the traditional way and quickly and briefly apologize if corrected.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Honestly they can just deal with it. I respect their choice, but I'm not gonna frustrate myself trying to figure them out, especially if it's just a quick conversation that will both forget about in a s few minutes.

Because when it gets to that level of complexity, like WTF is anyone supposed to seriously do?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You say you respect their choice, but your self-described actions don’t.