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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I've always had very very low interest in relationships anyway - I value my "alone time" greatly, prefer to not have emotional responsibilities towards other people and never wanted kids / a family. I fell in love exctly once in my life and that woman turned out to be a psycho. I have absolutely no interest in trying that ever again.

15+ years single and comfortable with the situation.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Some of y'all might just be aromantic or asexual. I thought I just had low interest in a relationship until I realized what exactly attraction is.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Same boat about just low interest in relationships, im not very social and dont go out to social events often... and apps are always a bit of a joke to me

Imo im just pretty comfortable being alone, and relationships seem like a lot of extra "work" that i probably wouldn't care for much.. if in the future i met someone and we hit it off then i wouldnt be opposed... but im really not gunna try putting myself out there/force it 😅

Been solo for +5 years

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

There are people that won't want kids, and some of them are not psychos. Some are introverts also.

:)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My ex was a psycho tho, completely unrelated to whether or not she wanted children. Some context: https://lemmy.world/comment/2313628

EDIT: ok, linking comments doesn't seem t work ATM, so here's a copypaste instead:

My ex was convinced that girls hitting / insulting men was not only completely fine and normal, but even hilarious and “cute” for some weird reason - and she legit couldn’t understand why I did not find it funny or endearing. It didn’t help that she was also visibly smaller than me (about 2/3 my height) and percieved those actions as her own unique “love language”.

Let’s just say that there is a good reason this woman is my EX now. It took a while for the rose-tinted glasses to finally shatter so I could see the red flags for what they were, but I’m glad that psycho is no longer part of my life.

(I know from mutual friends that she still thinks women hitting men is okay, but men hitting women deserve the death penalty)

...from a different discussion.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago