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TL;DR - Lemmy's userbase compare to Reddit just feel more angry and it so offputting when asking a question and getting an answer that sound like their pissed off. Feels oddly worse than Reddit.

Honestly, I want to like Lemmy as I want to try not use Reddit as much. The thing that is holding me back is I hate the users on Lemmy which their often passive aggressive and really snarky. I know Reddit does have those people but I always seen more them on Lemmy where I barely used it as much.

I asked on AskLemmy community if there's any Gen-Z community around, ideally just talking about nostalgia and stuff like that. Nothing malicious at all. Then got a angry reply saying "Fuck Gen-what, just join community and post!" and telling me about generation are there to "divide" people. Apparently, me asking community which mainly be me talking about cartoon and games I grow up with is evil.

If the tone was at least "This may not matter as much and you find it better picking any community that in your best interest" then I'm be alright, it the way they seem pissed at me for even asking it like I'm an idiot which gets to me. When I told that person to calm down and stop being snarky, I got reply from other users saying they wasn't.

Might stick to Reddit for now. I know it not great but it in my experince isn't as easily pissed off and is actually bareable to scroll for awhile. I hate talking bad about Lemmy as I really want to like it but I just hate the userbase so much that it feels pointless to even properly use it as much.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I asked a vegan what the word "carnist" was and got banned, lol. You're right, there's a lot of angry folk on here...and it's hilarious

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

Bad example removed

There are some communities which expect people to lurk and learn the terminology before asking questions. Asking what carnist is on a vegan community can be considered as sealioning.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sealioning

To show an example of of what vegans face, [email protected] got locked as it was a community which was willing to dunk on vegans, which is against LW terms of service.

https://lemmy.world/post/24429479?scrollToComments=true

(For people actually interested in carnivore diet, [email protected] is a better community)

The fact that you find it hilarious shows you were not being there in good faith.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

To show an example of of what vegans face, [email protected] got locked as it was a community which was willing to dunk on vegans, which is against LW terms of service.

Honest, but tangential question: is dunking against vegans specifically against the LW terms of service, or is it a more general violation against dunking on any group? I'm asking you because you seem to be familiar with the history of the [email protected] lock and also their terms of service.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 15 hours ago

Dunking on groups of people I would say. But I'm not that well versed in the LW ToS

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I've seen multiple posts on vegan communities about how they've been going onto some random carnivore communities for no other reason than to stir shit and get banned. So most of those arguments have lost all credibility to me personally; being angry and rude to people who ask honest questions makes you the asshole, full stop. You can never assume everyone knows all the exact things you do, and banning them from the community for not knowing them, while it is a choice you can make, is going to make your community look terrible.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 20 hours ago

people who ask honest questions

That's the principle sealioning is based on. Trolls pretend to be asking "honest questions" and then start trolling.

There are toxic people in every community, I showed an example above of a carnivore diet community which got locked as it wasn't complying with LW's ToS. [email protected] is still open.

Am I now going to say "A carnivore community has been banned, those people are nuts" based on that anecdotal evidence?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's people like you who ruin it for people like OP

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I assume this is a link to something in posted before? You have linked it wrong if so

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Curious, the link works on my side, are you using a specific client?

Anyway

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I take back what I said.

But still doesn't work, I use the mobile app connect

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

No worries.

Hm, curious, I guesz this of links aren't handled by Connect.

Anyway, have a good day!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

... Yes? Yes you would and you would get an answer...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Okay, I'll rephrase and find a better example

Edit: done