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Don't rely on anyone else for help, if you get in a jam, figure out how to resolve it on your own.
This is generally bad advice without some caveats.
It should be more like "learn when you should ask for help with something". Which is to say, when you get into a jam, don't immediately find someone to try and get you out of it. Do your own research into the problem first, then ask for help if you hit a block. Also, when someone helps you, try to understand everything they did so that you wont need to ask for help the next time it happens.
I feel that I agree to disagree. OP has asked other questions, hoping for some decent solid friendly advice.
OP, indeed you can't rely on random strangers online for life advice, but when you get some decent advice, I hope you have the good sense to sift through the good vs bad advice.
Not talking about this question, I'm answering the question. :)
But wouldn't a person who raised themselves already have that mindset? Seems like they would be better advised to allow others to help them when they are genuinely willing.
Advice: if you have this mentality be aware that it’s a symptom of having nobody to rely on or support you for too long (or at the wrong stage of life)
If you have this mentality you should seek professional help of some kind to get rid of it.
Or it's a result of lived experience. :)