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[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

A man who isn't sexually attracted to me and acts more like a super close friend than a lover.

I'm Asexually Aromantic, but I can't deny that I DESPERATELY SEEK the close connection of a man. If he's hella masculine (Buff n stuff) then that's bonus points, but I just don't really care at this point, just- fuckin coddle me or some shit. ๐Ÿคง

I'm mortified of Sex and anything sexual in nature; even if I wasn't scared of sex, I have never in my days of being conceived, birthed, and breathing, looked at a man and thought, "Aw yea, I wanna fuck 'em." I have no trauma either; Im deadass just built that way.

Dating always felt so fuckin weird to be, the idea of pet names and claiming someone as a boyfriend or girlfriend always weirded me tf out. I'm not Poly either; dating/romance is foreign to me and always has been that way.

The only guys I get "nervous" around are Japanese/Korean men. I 100% don't understand why, but I wanna befriend someone who is native to that area and be super close with em. But I'm black so I don't think it's gonna happen ๐Ÿ™ƒ (I did a little digging, Japan is a bit more tolerant but a lot of articles say Koreans don't really like/care for Blacks all that much ๐Ÿฅฒ I wanna have hope, but I'd prefer not to fuck around n find out the hard way.)

I want a guy who won't push me or judge me as I am. I want a guy who, when people ask "Hey are you two dating", we both go "FUCK NO!". I want a guy who I can hug, kiss, sleep in the same bed with, and through all of that still be 100% Platonic.

I'd prefer(??) they be mentally "cracked out" the same way as I am (ADHD/autism) But ong I just don't fuckin care, if he's funny and willing to put up with my sexuality/unhinged personality, HE'S A FUCKING KEEPER.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You'd love to be my dog except able to talk and also probably not actually being a dog.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

uhm.... hmmm...

Yea fuck it, I guess ima be a dog-person.

I actually adhere moreso to a "Catgirl" kinda vibe. I wear cat ears a lot and buy Kawaii or Japanese Lolita(NOT THE BOOK) fashion. never tried Puppy girl before...

Damn it now you got my goofy ass thinking >:/

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I was being kinda hypothetical and mostly just pointing out how much I coddle my dog, but NGL I could live like that.

I'm not asexual though. I'm an antinatalist. I only avoid sex because of my ethics.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Everyone deserves to be coddled sometimes, just a little :D

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Looked through some of your comments. You seem to be a thinker for sure, and not the type to jump to conclusions.