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I going about the shelter thing, a few years ago they did a study and there was not a single shelter for men in the country.
And I get it, it's important to take care of women, sure, but when somebody tried to start a support shelter for men there was a massive public outcry about it.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/brooklyn-residents-protest-proposed-men-only-homeless-shelter-in-their-neighborhood-it-s-going-to-be-a-war/ar-BB1k9dcj
And even if you had the time and inclination to for instance start a men's only gym, why would you risk all of that time and effort on the odd chance that you would offend a person who has a following and knows how to raise a Battle cry and next thing you know you've got a hundred angry protesters outside of your gym even though there are five female only gyms within walking distance because you have a men's only gym.
It's much easier to create a space that's just slightly uninviting for the average woman and then let the chips fall where they may.
It's easier to pass the buck and say somebody else will take care of the guys. We don't need to build men's only shelters. Guys are more resilient than women. Guys aren't as at risk as women are. Guys are shitty people in general and life gives them so many breaks, they don't need any additional support while there are still women who have needs.
Let's not start a men's only club because all it takes is one woman getting upset and suing us for discrimination and next thing we know we are out $250,000 in lawyer fees all because we wanted to have a boys space.
Let's just let all of the men suffer in silence forever and ever. They'll be okay they'll just rub some dirt in it and move on.
I'm a little salty. But I can cope. But I still feel emboldened to express that I dislike the inequality and I wish things were a little better.
You and MSN are wrong. I was in the men's shelter in Cincinnati just last year. The same organization operates two of them, each gendered, and it's because people will fuck. It's on 411 Gest St.
Also, put me up against whoever would sue for that. I even want them to win. That'll give me precedent to turn the tables.
This sounds less like a "this is my solution" and more like a cry for help. Are you okay??? Good god.
It's mostly an expression of my own frustration over the situation. I am not in any danger right now, I am unhappy with the current system.