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I'm 40 years old, in a crappy job without prospects despite degrees, and I have 0 friends.

I used to have a grand total of 2 friends before Covid, but then we lost contact. I've tried to rekindle, but all effort was onesided so I stopped.

I'm a lifelong spineless people pleaser despite lots of therapy, and the ironic thing is that this turns people off of you instead of having them like you.

At this point I don't see any reasons to continue trying.

If I had one wish in life, it would be to be a stereotypical asshole with actual self esteem - those are the kinds of people who seem to be anle to reach all of their goals and have others worship the ground they walk on.

But as for me, I'm so turned off by other people in general that I would probably be morbidly amused to read, oh I dunno, that Moscow nuked Kiev (or vive versa), that Jerusalem is burning, or that my hometown was wiped away by a hurricane.

Not to be "edgy". It's emotionally debilitating, and to be clear I don't enjoy/wish for human suffering.

I've just become as indifferent to it as the world seems to be to me. Simple tit for tat.

I'm tired. Kinda hoped I wouldn't wake up from my anaesthesia today. Ah well.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If you don't have a hobby, start by getting one. One where you need to interact with people, and eventually, you'll meet them and possibly make friends. If you're stuck between work and home, it's hard to meet new people and move on. One can't expect to keep the same friends forever in most y you just have to make new ones because people change

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

You're absolutely right, and just yesterday I signed up to join a numismatics club in a neighboring city. I don't know anyone there and this is rather out of character for me, but as you and others have said, staying in my little cocoon will never change my situation.