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So i still have depression and im constantly bored, i feel like a loser who cant do anything right. I want to let my creativeness out, make something i can share with the world or family, but im probably dreaming too big. I cant stand being depressed and bored, it stinks, everyone tells me to work out but i lack the motivation to do so.

i usually just watch youtube all day while complaining to family members that have no idea what to do about me.

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[–] [email protected] 230 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (11 children)

Hiking.

I cannot stress this enough.

One of the biggest loops of depression is feeling anhedonic and drained of energy, which keeps you from doing stuff, which keeps you anhedonic and drained of energy.

Go for a hike literally every single day for a whole month. Rate your depression on a scale of 1-10 every day a week before you start, every single day during, and then every day for a week after. You'll see the trend, and hiking will be your new antidepressant.

It's easy. It's walking. It's not competitive, you can go hilariously slowly and still accomplish your goal. You can add hobbies to this hobby, like photography or bird watching. You're probably not getting enough exercise, and being depressed all the time blows.

If you're nerdy and depressed, you may have heard about EMDR, where you sway your eyes back and forth rhythmically while you think about trauma. The doctor who came up with the treatment (that's showing crazy good results) went down the rabbit hole they went down because they noticed walking in the woods helping their depression. They currently think the mechanism has something to do with bilateral stimulation (walking) and constant reframing of your perspective (tree on my right, tree on my left, rock on my right, rock on my left).

Other physical activities are great too, but hiking seems literally taylor made for the depressed.

Do you struggle with anxiety and destructive ruminative thought patterns? Guess what you won't have the energy to do when you're panting for air?

Hiking is a legit way to maintain depression indefinitely. Don't get cozy, though. take a break and your brain will find its way back to it's old antics.

[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 year ago

Walking, or running, is good for your brain in almost every way. My depression was/is coupled with social anxiety so it was hard to get myself to do it but things like walking to the grocery store instead of biking/car helped me change that into 'I'll take a detour'.

The worst hobbies for me are the ones that are done sitting still, or anything that 'creates' a different 'reality/world'. For me that was anything behind my pc. Woodworking is better for me and allows me not to worry about social stuff but walking is definitely better for my brain.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This was an amazing help last year when my wife was had really bad PTSD symptoms from a medical crisis she had. We walked 3+ miles almost every day last fall through January. She started getting better around then, and we started shortening our walks to 1 mile a day throughout the spring.

Now it's over 100°F every single day and we are stuck inside for at least another month. Luckily she's doing well these days, but I do miss our walks.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Save up for a hiking trip together 😁

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

If you want to throw stuff while hiking, Disc Golf is for you. Honestly I owe playing disc golf much appreciation to getting out of a big slump I was in and losing weight. It’s like hiking, but with a mini game built in.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Came here to say this. If you have anyone in your life who would be willing to keep you accountable by being your hiking buddy, that helps me a lot. Before my partner and I got together, she was my friend who liked hiking and got tips from a Facebook group on good locations. Every weekend, she had picked a place for us to go. Since I didn't want to let her down, I got my ass out the door. I never regretted a single hike because they were all to great nature spots.

I realize this is limited by geography. I'm lucky to live in a place with a lot of great trails. I used to live in a place that was flat and uninteresting, so this depends on having access to nice trails.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Oh wow, I didn't know the theory behind EMDR, but I've had great success treating my anxiety and depression with both EMDR and hiking. Makes a lot of sense!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Little things that make solo hikes even more enjoyable:

  • Merlin Bird Sound ID app.
  • Bringing one piece of hard candy with you
  • If you must listen to something, get earphones with a transparency setting where you can still hear birds and leaves crunching under your feet
  • A dog
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Running too. Almost every activity that makes you sweat can trigger the EMDR effect, and of course has a load of knock-on effects too

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

The key component of EDMR is bilateral asynchronous stimulation.

So not anything that makes you sweat can give you the benefits of EMDR. It must engage your left and right hemispheres over and over.

i.e. bench pressing will make you sweat, is in no way EMDR.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

And if you like to compete with yourself, dish golfing. It's cheap(at least it can be), and it's basically competitive hiking :)