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Let me preface this by saying I am a man, and smoked a little too much, so I'm sitting here thinking... what is or was the original purpose of a bra? Weight support? Vanity? Covering the nips so people's eyes met your eyes and you can have a normal conversation? Like what's it all about?

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[–] [email protected] 47 points 4 months ago (3 children)

I'm a small breasted woman who does not wear a bra. The reasons of practicality and comfort are described below for bigger chested people (I didn't see mentioned that if they are really big and you try to run without serious, sometimes two sports bras on they can fly up and hit you in the face). I do sometimes accidentally hit my nipple on something, which I don't like.

But in my experience, people get upset at seeing boob shaped boobs. Strangers tell me I should be wearing a bra. They want bra shaped boobs. Nipples are scary.

I haven't worn one since middle school when it was new and fun and made me feel "grown up" (but uncomfortable). But some years back I got shingles and apparently permanent nerve damage on the nerve group that would be right under the bra band on my back and anything irritating it makes me feel like I'm on fire so it's just not going to happen. Certainly not in the name of sparing the general public the scandal of seeing boob shaped boobs in a loose T shirt. At the very most I will use silicone tape to hide my nipples in very formal situations.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm not busty either, but I hate the feeling of my chest moving around or hanging. Sport's bra's are the only thing I wear. Even while sleeping.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm a man, and that's how I feel about boxers and being nude. I don't like that dangle feel of uncontrolled swaying on a sensitive part.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

A kindred spirit. Saggy/floppy bodyparts man...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Ngl. I've hit my nipples on things and it sucks. My dogs have ran their nails across them and they burn for the rest of the day. I totally feel that pain

However I'm a guy and have had to apologize multiple times to women because my eyes just trail down to the chest. I don't know psychosomatics of it, but it's not something I consciously intend to do.

Beyond that, I don't mind whether women do or don't wear a bra. Breastfeed in public if needed. It all should truly be none of my business. However, I donate to breast cancer research every year for a reason. And that reason is I think about boobs. My wife has my favorite pair though.

Anyway, I digress, I never really knew the original purpose of them and figured I could satiate my curiosity and have a conversation about boobs with people

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Curious why you don't just ask your wife.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago

Good question! She said, and I quote "I don't know. What the fuck is going on in your head right now?"

[–] [email protected] -5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It's very sexy to see nipples through clothes. I don't know why but it's just much hotter than seeing bare breasts.

Maybe people ask you to wear a bra because it's making guys get distracted.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

They do, but they shouldn't. You should not ask a stranger to change their behavior because you cannot control your own. Maybe family would do it for you, but even then it's can be a shitty thing to do.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago (2 children)

You can't ask guys to not get distracted. It's not a choice they are making.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

You absolutely can ask them that. Noticing it is not the same thing as getting distracted by it. Allowing your focus to be highjacked by the environment is a sign of a weak mind. If you went to work and a coworker told you the shape of your nose was distracting to them, and you need to wear a mask so they can continue to work, that is on the coworker, not you. It is absurd to put someone else in charge of what needs to be done to stop you from being distracted.

People need to control themselves, no one else has that ability.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago

Won't happen :) And disagree about the weak mind as well. Has nothing to do with mind, it's hormones. Ask teenage boys to have their hands on their cover and exercise their willpower.... :)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

It’s not a choice they are making

It is if they're friggin' adults. Despite the media, we're not supposed to be just led around by our penis'; unable to avoid being distracted by bewbs.

That's a cop out that guys use as an excuse to not evolve.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Disagree, and you see the same thing in women when there is an attractive guy around.

This political correct bullshit trying to make people think it's wrong to be attracted to someone is just ridiculous. :)