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Ace people are queer too :)
And really, some of us have 0 interest in sex please stop asking us. Believe it or not, romance isn't sexual in and of itself, so it's not impossible for us to crave romance and have no desire for sex.
And, many of us are this way without ever having experienced trauma. It's necessary to ask someone about trauma in a relationship, but don't assume it's the reason for the lack of sexual interest. (In many cases it is a or the reason, but that doesn't take away from the fact that a person doesn't want to engage in sex)
I think it's also important for people to understand the mental effects of dating an ace person as someone who isn't ace. I got caught up in that and it took a long while for me to stop thinking I was undesirable and gross.