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is ADHD harder to manage with time? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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when i was a child, i had a tendency to extremely hyper fixate on various topics for months, so now that i'm older it just feels like i've experienced everything even though I technically haven't. the fixations are becoming much more quick in terms of cycles / how long they (don't) last and i spend most of my time feeling bored and empty, just rotting away and feeling entertained by nothing. lately this has caused me to get really stuck in the past, so i spend a lot of time just laying in bed crate digging my own memories and feeling kind of depressed because i have nothing new to be excited by or interested in. it does not help that i don't really have any long term goals or ambitions either, i just kind of exist.

does anyone else feel like this?

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This really resonates with me. It certainly feels like it gets harder to manage every year, but I don't know that that's actually the case. I think the reality is just that I've become much more aware of my deficiencies over time.

As a child I wouldn't bat an eye at playing video games for 10 hours straight without eating or drinking anything, but as an adult I'm aware that I could be doing so much more productive things with my time. Now, if I ever feel the familiar urge of a new fixation setting in I also feel melancholic because I have to actively temper myself to the point I feel guilty if I indulge it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Interesting point of view. Honestly I guess I am kinda broken in that regard, I miss the constant fixations a lot, I feel so bored and helpless when I have nothin' to focus on. it does sound to me like your hope is ultimately to control that, in which case I wish you the absolute best.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

Honestly I guess I am kinda broken in that regard, I miss the constant fixations a lot, I feel so bored and helpless when I have nothin' to focus on.

I wouldn't say you're broken, because if you are then I have to admit I'm broken in the same way 😁

Whether we like it or not, this disease is a part of us both and learning to manage and live with it is an integral part of our lives. You'll find what works for you one of these days, but the important thing is to not give up and keep trying. To me though, what you describe in your post sounds a little more like depression (Something I also have a great deal of personal experience with).