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Do you feel dumb ? (feddit.rocks)

submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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dumb ( stupid ) : missing the sense in talk ( Sometimes get the sense when re-thought later )

I do most daily routines and has good relationship with known persons. But, the dumb feeling pulls me back ( eg: "not creating" new friends , not getting another job/getting out of comfort zone )

What do you "passively" do to overcome this ? Else , what are the active tasks you do?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Good question imo!

I feel dumb on a regular basis but for various reasons. Sometimes I dont get what people mean, sometimes I just take on things that I dont yet grasp. Both are very different situations imo.

Things I did to change this included: watching/reading about reasons for this, talking to others about it, talking to a professional about it, writing down my experiences and trying to make sense of them.

All of these things helped me, over time. Nothing was instant. Today I still have moments like this but I feel better because I understand why they happen and what I can do to live a healthier life.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Thanks, that consistency is what I am missing . I used to write notes. But what-if-others-see-my-silly-notes feeling also there.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Understandable. "If they comment negatively on it, you have learned they are not your friends" is what I learned from situations like that.

It's hard to accept oneself with flaws and quirks but its worth it. Embrace it and as long as you dont infringe on others freedoms, live it to the max. Being weird is awesome.