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Overworked, underpaid, and relying on technology to distract the kids. Not a lot different from 80's and 90's parents, except you know, poorer and more time-strapped.
Same here, overworked and underpaid, two kids. Neither has a smartphone nor has access to any social media site beside kids YouTube and Netflix. I meant kids shouldn't be on social media, in my original comment. I always utilize the iPad for my daughter when I'm working or need her to sit so I can get shit done. My son, who's the oldest, doesn't have a phone yet. He has two gaming consoles, neither of them has online access for multiplayer. That's what I mean by why are kids on the internet.
Not trying to dog on other parents, but just like when I was growing up a lot of parents either didn't know/didn't care what their kids were watching on TV, and didn't make a lot of effort to control it. Many parents now are sadly similar in not paying attention to their kids' internet habits.
You're being a good parent. I don't know why other people struggle with this idea. In my opinion, you should just be proud of yourself and disappointed in other parents who don't take the same measures.
I will say those other parents make it difficult, though. My sister had to drop a lot of her parental controls eventually because her kids would go to friends' houses with unrestricted internet access, and you just can't control that. Even if you are involved with what your kids watch at home, once they are out of your eyesight and with other people, they can get access. Anyway, denying them access was causing more fights between her and her kids than it was worth. They saw that other kids had unrestricted access, and they wanted that, too. On the plus side, they were already 14 by this time, but still, it became a huge headache because other parents didn't care.
Anyway once again, good on you, mate. Keep being a thoughtful and involved parent, we need more of y'all.
Thank you. The key thing is that I didn't make it "I'm your parent and I control your life", no, I reasoned with him and explained to him whatever we do. I have built a very good friendship with my son that he trusts me when I do something for him. I'll never make him feel that I control his life or what he does on the PC, I've just made him aware of things. Not gonna lie, though, we do have one strict rule, no social media of any kind. Also, I'm too lazy to type all of this again, but here is my response to another commenter when they asked if my kid has a social life in real life (basically, they were worried that I'm caging my kids lol).
Please tell me your kids have some other form of social interaction.
I was bullied real bad in school, so if not for online access, I would have had basically no one to talk to besides my parents.
No, I have them both locked up in a cage in the middle of the Pacific ocean 😂 My friend, there is a whole world out there beside this virtual one (internet). My son goes outside all the time to play with his friends IN PERSON. Rides his bike with them, does sleep overs and whatever we did back in the day when we were kids. He just doesn't have any social media accounts. I have a full Linux PC sitting in his bedroom that he can do whatever he wants on. I just make sure he's safe on there. I have a firewall on there and an ad blocker on the browser. My daughter is special needs, so, that's another story :)