Divergent Parenting

So over the past month, this instance has used a whopping 30gigs. That comes solely from being connected to other Lemmy instances. I appreciate the people from other instances who have found this place and find what I (and hopefully one day others!) post here, but it's tapping out the capacity of the tiny little server I run this instance on.

After talking to a lot of people about docker and other tools I do not understand so well, I have a new shiny purge post tool. It will purge any posts from the server that no one from this instance has interacted with after a week. If no one from this instance has liked, bookmarked, etc a post, it's gone in a week.

That should allow me to keep this place going for a while longer. I should probably have the tool attached to a bot user, instead of me, but meh.

Sorry everyone. I'm currently doing some investigation into why the resources this instance is using is spiking. There is more disk space being used than expected, so I need to take some time to figure out if this is a lemmy thing or something else. Then what to do about it.

I noticed that [email protected] was getting cluttered with a lot of science stuff, so I've created [email protected] to hold all that stuff from now on.

I first saw this here. Our instance is on v0.18 which is the latest. It looks like that version has some issues with syncing posts with instances that aren't Lemmy.

My experience has been that you do eventually get posts and whatnot from kbin at least, but Mastodon can't be viewed at all. Hopefully this will be fixed in the next release.

Welcome to Divergent Parenting. Divergent Parenting is a lemmy instance dedicated to the parents and caregivers of neurodivergent children and dependents.

Divergent Parent has some very basic site-wide rules:

1. Be respectful. Everyone should feel welcome here. Parent shaming will not be tolerated.
2. No bigotry. This includes but is not limited to: racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, and xenophobia.
3. No Ads or Spamming. Self-promotion is allowed only in communities where is has been explicitly permitted.
4. NSFW content is allowed in order to allow discussion of sensitive topics. However, no pornography or overly sensual content is allowed.

We are a caregiver-space first and foremost. However, we do welcome dependents, neurodiverse adults, and allies. We ask that they follow our rules and are respectful of the caregivers in this space giving and seeking support.

What is Lemmy?

Simply put, Lemmy is a bunch of mini reddits that can talk to each other. This is like the forums of old, except that you can see and interact with the posts from other forums while logging in to your preferred forum. Learning all the details of Lemmy can take some time, so you can visit c/Lemmy Help, to ask questions and see what information already exists. Lemmy.World also has a very good getting started guide

What exactly does neurodivergent mean?

Neurodivergent is a relatively new term. When people think of it, what immediately springs to mind are conditions like austism and ADHD. However, neurodiversity covers far more conditions like anxiety and dyslexia. The Cleveland Clinic explains the idea very well. Being neurodivergent is not a well defined term because it's an idea and not a medical definition. Neurodiversity however does present some unusual challenges for parenting, which is why this instance was created.

Can I be here if my child isn't neurodivergent?

Sure. All parents are welcome. Parenting techniques that work well on neurodiverse children can work well for neurotypical children and vice-versa.

Okay, now what?

Well, you can make an account, you don't have one already. Once you have an account here or with another instance you can check out our community list and subscribe. Or if you're not ready to join, you can just look at all the posts the instance currently has

When a new lemmy instance spins up, all the other instances don't know about it, so it can take a while for posts to appear in the All tab. Usually they don't appear until users start to subscribe to instances outside of the one they signed up for.

Through programming trickery (also known as stealing other people's hard work), I've made some of the big instances aware of us, so they'll start sharing posts with us.

I'm currently, still setting up the instance and only half know what I'm doing. Federation for some reason doesn't seem to be work 🤔. From what I understand Lemmy should federate to the world automatically, but I've also been reading that you get "auto-blocked" if you don't have certain instances blocked yourself. I'll have to investigate. I wouldn't want people to be forced to join this instance in order to participate.

EDIT: It seems to be fixed now

Hello all. I am the creator of this instance (Although you will likely only see me post under my username @saplith when not making very official announcements).

I am currently looking for folks to volunteer to moderate the communities that currently exist. They would establish rules of these communities and help in their care. My hope is for every community to have at last 3 moderators and for no moderator to head more than 5 communities.

If you're interesting please leave a comment here with what community you'd be interested in moderating.