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English is not my first language, so maybe I didn't explain it all that well. I rarely ever even flirt with women because I'm afraid it will make them uncomfortable. I, as any other person, seek companionship. I know it sounds shallow to put emphasis on looks. But no matter which way I shake it it is an important factor to me. I can tell myself it's not but it just is. I can't change myself in that regard. So in order to not make anyone feel uncomfortable I ask for help. Again, not just for my own sake but also for theirs.

I don't know what to tell you. I only blame myself for being this way. As I said I am the only one that's to blame. I do not deny that. I think my bitterness about my life is unfounded. I do not want to feel this way. Not to gain favours from women but for myself. For that I ask help. That's it. Sorry you feel this way.

I think they mean to ask for honest feedback, it’s quite possible your lack of success is linked to the mindset you have.

Oh I see. That's actually not a bad idea. I'll try and ask them.

How about Stancels? We are celibate due to our standards?

Have you considered that it’s the way you interact with whoever you’re interested in?

Are you nervous, self-conscious, whatever?

I honestly have never thought of it in great detail. But where would I be able to get feedback on this?

I do not deny it's shallow. I am absolutely not savoury when it comes to that (though I do need her to also have similar interests). Be that as it may, I just don't develop any romantic feelings for them otherwise.

https://youtu.be/cClSiXBNGa8?si=qxyWva8kRn__oTVv

?si=qxyWva8kRn__oTVv

See this part of the link here? That's actually a tracker by Youtube. You can omid that to make the link more privacy friendly like so:

https://youtu.be/cClSiXBNGa8

Thanks for the recommendation by the way!

Do you think you are sort of batting out of your league looks-wise?

Yes, definitely.

is there anything else that makes you think you are not physically attractive?

My arms and legs are particularly skinny, like Ballerina level skinny.

May I ask how old you are?

I am 24 years old

You are outgoing and social, perhaps try practicing flirting?

I find flirting difficult. Because I never want to make it obvious and I don't know if that's a good thing or not.

I never asked them to "rate" my looks. If that's what you mean.

I already do, actually. But I was wondering whether or not if I should drop it after this reply. But I think I'll continue anyway.