No class consciousness. Too many tech workers think they're rugged individuals that can negotiate their own contracts into wealth.
Working for free on nights and weekends to "hit that deadline" is not good. You're just making the owners rich, and devaluing labor. Even if you own a lot of equity, it's not as much as the owners.
And then there's bullshit like return to office mandates and people are like "oh no none of us want to do this but there's no organized mechanism to resist"
Side note: small talk plays important roles in socializing and is an important skill. Use it to steer the conversation to interesting topics.
No one's going to be perfect. People are going to be nervous on a first date. Give them a chance.
Conversely, sticking with a relationship too long. Contrary to the above, sometimes you really should call it. If the guy isn't treating you with respect, you don't have to keep going. If you realize you never look forward to seeing them, you should probably end it.
Chatting too long before meeting. You're not a real person to them when you're just over text. You're missing body language and tone. You want to meet in person quickly.
The general flow for me is like
If the online chat ends and you haven't scheduled a date, but you want to, that's bad. You don't want to be having a second "hey what's up?" tinder chat.
If this doesn't come naturally to you , that's fine. Just remember with your brain "always ask a question". You need to give them something to work with.
And a last thought that ended up stranded at the bottom of this post, and I'm writing on my phone so editing is hard:
"But what about people who want to take it slow?" Do you want to date someone who doesn't want to date? I don't.
edit: minor error from autocorrect
This does not sound like a very common experience.
What is it that makes you uncomfortable? Is it all scenarios? Coffee date? Bar date?
Yes, you can make players pre-plan. You nudge them.
No amount of nudging will make some players do anything. Some players are obstinate and frankly not very good, but honestly the solution to "this player won't stop looking at their phone and their turns take forever" may be to remove them from the group.
Why does it matter how much time everyone takes?
I don't want to wait 5 minutes for someone to dither and dither and finally decide "I attack"
I didn't vote for him and neither did anyone I know :(
This was a weirdly aggressive comment.
The solution is the pre-planning, which does not need a timer, nor is it a guaranteed result of a timer.
You cannot make players pre-plan. The timer encourages pre-planning, or at least rapid decision making on the fly. Both have the desired result of the game moving at a quicker pace.
It also has the benefit of creating an impartial tool for measuring, instead of relying on subjective "You're taking a long time." It is harder to argue with a clock. This is an advantage.
There was a problem, and in trying to fix it, the DM created a second problem.
What is the second problem?
I'm pretty sure it's a pretty well known phenomenon that conspiracy theories funnel down into antisemitism
I don't know what point you were trying to make
Leaving people to go full Lord of the Flies on their sexual urges leads to violence and fear and resentment.
I don't think this is unique to sex. Sex is often special-cased in ways I don't think it really needs to be. We probably agree more than we disagree here.
By contrast, if your basic needs are guaranteed, sex as a profession becomes something you can choose as an entrepreneurial passion rather than a lifeline for your survival.
No argument here. Basic income and the essentials guaranteed would solve a lot of problems for a lot of people. Certain members of the wealthy would be upset, though
This is idealistic, but I think for most people conspiracy stuff is filling an emotional need. If the experiment fails, the emotional problems remain. Thus the theory will be updated to uphold the feelings.
So like if they see a photo of the earth from space, they're more likely to say it's a fraud. Truth doesn't matter. Feelings do.
Anyone who cares about facts on this topic would have left flat-earth after a short while on wikipedia.
So the question is: what emotional need is this filling, and how can it be met more safely?
I do wonder sometimes what they're thinking. Like, do they think the conversation is going well when I have to keep resuscitating it?
I'm told people have "different communication styles", which is fine, but "not asking questions and giving really short answers" doesn't seem like an effective style here. Like, if someone's chatting you up at the bar and you're not interested, then giving short answers can make a kind of sense. But in a dating app where you both showed interest? If you're no longer interested just unmatch.