Vespair

Engagement bait. People love pointing out mistakes

You know, I'm well aware of their reputations and I've had a small number of encounters with users from those instances that I'll charitably leave at "bad faith," but by and large I don't really bump into communities hosted on their instances or see overtly bad behavior from their users often.

I'm not trying to defend them or say it doesn't happen (largely because frankly, I just don't care one way or the other), but I can only be honest and speak to my individual experience.

Yeah, reason #2937 exactly why I support a nationalized NASA rather than the outsourcing of space travel to corporations and capitalism.

Space should be ours, all of ours, not just theirs.

Hot take: as annoying as Mariah's Christmas song can be, the memes about Mariah's Christmas song are 1000x worse.

I have 9 users blocked, 10 communities blocked (mostly based on taste, not due to toxicity though), and 0 blocked instances.

Call me the fun police, but I don't think we need to raise Lemmy power users to the position of micro celebrities, and I don't find this kind of circle jerking cute.

And I say this as somebody with positive opinions of many of the people referenced.

It's just like... Weird and kind of lame, tbh.

There's a scene in NCIS where somebody is losing a "hacker fight" so to turn it around a second person joins in and starts typing on the same keyboard.

I'm not exaggerating.

Like there's suspension of disbelief, and then there's whatever psychological issue watchers of NCIS suffer from.

I think the difficulty will be the slippery and nebulous definition of "toxic"

Meh. Maybe I'm just not in the wrong corners of the Lemmy fediverse, but honestly I'm not really seeing very many of the banned finding their way here. That was a huge problem in the cesspools like Voat, but for whatever reason it seems like Lemmy has mostly been spared, in my limited experience at least.

That said, yeah there's a fair amount of blunt talking and general mild misanthropy, but frankly I almost welcome that as a change from the overmoderated sterility of corporate spaces like Reddit which have to think in terms of advertiser-friendliness.

Dude for real - if this dude ends up being the victim of a home invasion who the hell is he going to call to show up 8 hours later to interrogate him like he was the culprit and probably shoot his dog for some reason?

I dunno, I see a lot of value in living on a planet with no conservatives

Honestly, I've met plenty of contrarians that this feels like exactly the right way to react to.