Melonius

I took my kid to Target the other day. As one of the last 3rd spaces available where capitalism showcases the latest and greatest, I figured I'd treat it as a learning experience for him. He really wanted a very specific skid-steer toy, so I told him he could pick out something else if we couldn't find one.

There is something very unsettling about vaguely understanding the state of the world and being a parent. First I drove him through the clothes section because he's around the age where I'd like him to start expressing his preferences on what he wants to wear. Up until now he's been told what to wear by all the gifts he gets for his birthday, and I didn't really understand that implication until just then.

And that led to the next basic conclusion - his toy preferences were also dictated by all the gifts he's received from friends, grandparents, or what he sees at school. We walked through what was clearly and distinctly the girl toys section. I'm still to shit so I felt awkward walking down the aisle but I put on a brave face and asked him if anything there interested him.

Nope he still wants the skid-steer. We pass by the car brain section and I notice more acutely now that there are 600 variants of the same plastic car with different paint colors. None of them interest him. We see the fascist puppies of paw patrol which thank god he doesn't care for either. In the construction toys section, a skid-steer catches my eye and I point it out to him. He shakes his head, no daddy that's a bulldozer. My toddler knows more about construction equipment than me. I'm proud and terrified in the same instant.

He zeroes in on an excavator. I remind him this will be the 4th variant of excavator that he owns and explain that we should donate some of his older excavators since we don't need all of them. I spend a few minutes in the aisle of target asking if he's sure that he wouldn't enjoy trying out a different toy or exploring his interests a bit, but he's set.

In the parking lot I show him how to return the cart to the cart return. I was reminded of the redditest discourse ever - cart return politics. People in those threads act like returning a cart is some mark of a morally superior person. Like it isn't the most basic bare minimum utterly insignificant expression of social responsibility. It still needs to be fucking taught to a person. Empathy is natural but it still needs to be nurtured or people will just assume whats in front of them is just how things are.

As I'm strapping my excited kid in to his car seat I keep thinking about that. He's holding his cheap plastic excavator that's maybe a third the size of him and he can't wait to get home, and what's in front of him is just how things are. I get in to the driver seat and I feel totally overwhelmed. I start tearing up. I immediately move the rear view mirror so he doesn't see his grown ass dad show a moment of weakness in a paved sea of personal chariots in front of the temple of capitalism. This way of life is built on so much suffering and it's so hollow and fake, and here I am teaching my child the prescribed ways of coping, escaping, avoiding it.

I love my kid, I've already made so many mistakes and I know I'll make more. It makes me really hopeful that he loves construction stuff so much. I feel so much shame for being a stupid lib for so much of my life, but also so much of his life. I also can't help but wonder if my parents felt the same way when I was a toddler, if this is just some repeating cycle that will continue until this decaying empire fails its last failure that finally breaks the whole system.

They could stop it all now if they wanted. They could end things from a position of relative strength. Agree that - haha ok things went a little too far there - let's end the whole exploitation and colonialism thing. Maybe start talking reparations and some prison sentences for the worst offenders. Nothing could possibly make up for all the pain and suffering done so far, but nothing will get better until it stops.

But they don't. My child will grow up immersed in this death cult machine and have to operate in its confines just like me. Me, his father, the guy he looks up to and expects to protect him. We talk about radicalizing people but I can think of nothing more radicalizing than realizing the world you are handing down to your own children is this.

Mom says you have to share or else nobody can post which is a form of collective punishment prohibited by article 33 of the fourth geneva conventions so you know she's serious

Did he button the bottom of his jacket just prior to standing up, or was he sitting like that and his jacket was doing the fwump thing?

Still new here and trying to figure things out. Regarding voting, I'd like to get some feedback on some thoughts I've had.

I get that voting D/R is pointless since Ds just seatwarm for Rs at best, and actively implement R policies at worst. They have no incentive to work for left policies, and R policies will ultimately benefit them personally.

That being said, we're "punished" for not voting D by getting an actual insane R in office. If Rs are in control its way worse, right? or, maybe it has to get worse to get better?

So what is the dominant strategy here for National elections? My personal vote is extremely minor and unimportant so keeping that in mind, I can:

1. not vote - Lower participation rate shows I don't endorse the system, and if enough people don't vote, does it mean anything?

2. vote third party - I like this idea since, although super unlikely, it gives more pressure to D and R to moderate (lol) as neither want to lose power. Write in votes aren't going to turn in to anything big without some serious organizing, but I don't know if there's ever been a serious attempt to organize a mass write in campaign? Or if there will even be a viable third party candidate in 2024?

3. vote D - 🤮

4. Something else?

I haven't seen this discussed much in the short time I've been here so maybe I'm missing something obvious or misunderstanding something above, so would appreciate any help. Maybe the real answer is it really doesn't matter, but would like to make the best limited choice I can

I'm a bit of a recent convert and still have a lot to learn, but wanted to get this discussion going while its fresh in my mind, and to possibly aid/shut down a lot of the arguments I anticipate when advocating for a lot of the beliefs held here. I got a ton of benefit from reading through https://hexbear.net/post/279801 but don't feel I am anywhere near capable of having that hard discussion with people who have lived their entire lives in an American 3d commercial (me included).

I think one of the biggest hurdles I had was dealing with the hypocrisy of capitalism. Yes, we're all guilty under capitalism. Yes, that's a feature of the system to make us all complicit. When right leaning individuals use their talking point, I have this underlying dread that I will be called out as a hypocrite for enjoying all the glorious gadgets spewed out by oppressing workers worldwide. I feel like there is more to this than what I've just written and would really appreciate some further contributions to it because it's still bugging me.

Like if you find out that what you're doing is contrary to your held beliefs, you can

1. status quo and live with yourself - hypocritical?
2. reject your current action and live by belief - great, but maybe not realistic
3. reject your current belief and live by your actions - fucking terrible but probably mentally freeing?

I feel like the 1 state is not sustainable, but I also realize that individual action will not work without communal restrictions on consumption of problematic goods. Maybe that's all there is to this point but if I missed something there would appreciate any feedback. Again, looking to shut down these kinds of arguments before they go on their own tangents.

Lastly, in my limited time thinking about it with the above in mind, I've come to the limited conclusion that being taught that hypocrisy is "bad" may have some inherent flaws? I have observed with myself and others that lefties seem to view hypocritical behavior as "bad" while righties wear hypocritical behavior like a badge. It suppresses discussion of more liberal topics while letting the fascist discussions dominate. I think it became really clear to me when I was discussing the slavery education stuff in Florida with a friend and they sarcastically responded with "Oh yeah I'm sure they'll develop the best scientists over there in the future." Maybe sarcasm is a coping mechanism for when we feel powerless to stop something or maybe my friend is a lame-o, but a year ago I might have said the same shit?

Anyways stream of consciousness tldr - looking to shortcut all the thinking about "no ethical consumption under capitalism", and would like to have the ideas on hand to be able to not only shut down accusation of hypocrisy, but make other libs feel comfortable with owning their own mental entanglement with their own guilt without letting it stop them from rejecting fascism.

And obviously if there's any existing reading material that covers all this and more would be psyched to read. Thanks!