Anyone else experience getting over someone and then just randomly falling back into that heartbreak randomly months later? His voice echoes in my head, I'm desperately trying to remember what he looked like, I miss the jokes we had... I wish things would have gone differently. If I could have just held on, things could have sorted themselves out and I could be happy right now. Instead I'm just lonely.
this post was submitted on 07 Oct 2023
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I've been through this not too long ago, and it took me close to 2 years to get over her, but yeah, it does happened from time to time after the initial few months, stuff will suddenly flood back and i will feel so lonely and extremely depressed. It's almost 2 years now and i barely think of her, but the harm she caused will take a lot longer to heal up. Still lonely though.
But for your case, i believe you ditch him for a good reason, i know it will hurt because it's comfortable to stay and hold on than to have no one by your side, but sometime it's best to let go than to hold on, because there's no telling whether he will change. It take time to heal, a lot of time, just be kind to yourself.
You probably didn’t get over the person.. you could still be happy without your ex or anyone (in the future) for that matter.
And perhaps it’s worth thinking about why do you miss the person in the first place. Do you miss him because you feel lonely? Or do you miss him because you’re not as happy as you’ve hoped so you think about your previous fond memories?
I'm definitely lonely, and also depressed over how life has gone for the past months. I don't have much to celebrate. I don't really think of him that fondly tbh. I do always remember the hurt that was caused, even more than the good stuff, but under there is just the feeling of comfort, belonging, and something close to love.
Went hiking today with some nyets and my doggo.
It's been a while since I hiked. Feels good.
What's a nyet? What are your dogs names? Can you share doggy pics? 😁
A nyet is a short form for monyet, which means monkey in Bahasa Malaysia and it's a term used to refer to the users of r/Malaysia.
My dogs' names are Vivi, Ben and Brownie. Here's a picture of Vivi from yesterday's hike.
Omg that's really cool. So this community is for Malaysians? I didn't think you'd deliver names and pics! This is the best 🥰 thank you so much. Vivi is absolutely gorgeous. She looks to me like a German shepherd but... Blonde? Here at least they are always red or orange in coat paired with black.
Yup, for Malaysians, but it's not exclusive. You're more than welcomed to participate here.
She's actually a Husky mix. She took after her mum in terms of colouring and look.
Greetings, a bad day for humanity as another war broke out, this time at Mediterranean.
Not sure if non-link posts are allowed on the Politics community so putting it here. Do you guys agree with this? Personally, unemployed people of all ages contribute to our society and nation in different ways that can impact it meaningfully.
If t20 doesn't get multiple vote per person, what make it so special that unemployed have to get singled out in this case? Voting is a right, that person's logic is weird.
Beside, unemployed is not forever for majority of the people in that category.
Frankly, percentage of unemployed citizens is usually quite low to be able to sway election results.
Absolutely agree with your sentiment. There is a much wider array of labor than a simple JOB and furthermore the point of a country or nation isn't solely to make sure people are employed under capital.
Personally, unemployed people of all ages contribute to our society and nation in different ways that can impact it meaningfully.
may i ask, what sort of contribution do you think they could bring to the society?
Lets say housewives who are unemployed but very active in community work supported financially by their husbands. That is some kind of contribution right
true that, that's a good example.
I feel really hypersocial today. This week had some stressful emergencies and last night I thought "wos I'm so excited, I can finally treat myself tonight and have fun!" And then I fell asleep early and slept a lot. It's morning, and... I'm sitting alone in my house. My friends seem busy. Whatever I guess. I have an unmet need and I daresay Maslow would be angry on my behalf.