Hi, programming.dev owner here. From what I've been seeing it's a lot of memory issues. We were hitting swap which was causing massive disk io. You can see what happened with the disk io immediately after the upgrade to more memory. I know at least one reason is being resolved in this PR
We were also having issues with the nginx config. There were some really weird settings that I don't think were necessary. Finally, the federation is quite busy. So if someone subscribes to events from 10 different servers, we pull in every single event, even upvotes. There's currently a lot of work being done around this stuff.
I don't think Rust is the problem. I think it's just a growth thing. Every platform has growth challenges, things grow in ways that you never expect. You might have thought that it was going to be IO constrained due to the federation, but in reality it's memory constrained because memory is actually the most expensive thing to have on a server. etc.