The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/LewdMimic on 2024-10-13 12:37:38.
I have a friend who I really like and is an all around a nice person. He is also poor, works relatively far and has no vehicle. His relationship with his family is also strained and they wouldn't be able to help him much anyway because they are more or less in the same boat. I make more than he does but I am also poor (I make about $30K a year) and after getting to know him better I decided to help him out occasionally with a little cash if he needed it or with a favor such as driving him to and from work. I just wanted to be nice.
The problem is that he's been taking advantage of it (and me) especially as I'm also going through a rough patch myself. Inflation's a bitch y'all. I've talked to him to get to get him to understand that while I get his situation is difficult (he was almost homeless) and that I don't mind helping him out every once in while that I need him to stop reaching to me just to get me to fix his problems. Especially since I have many of my own.
Just as an example at least once a week (it used to be way more frequent) I wake up to a wall of text messages explaining what emergency he has now and how he desperately needs my help. It stresses me out and puts me in a shitty mood to start the day. Now I dread getting texts from him.
Also I mostly ignore his texts to hangout even when I do have free time (which is rare) because its never just actually hanging out. It's always just an excuse so I can do him a favor like taking him to the store or to an appointment where I'm often left alone just waiting for him to finish. By the time we're done it's either too late to do anything or I'm no longer in the mood and just want to go home.
Unfortunately his situation isn't really improving and he won't stop basically guilt tripping me. Again he's actually a nice guy and I do like spending time with him when we do really hangout plus I know he really does need the help. But honestly I'm growing resentful and I feel like it's only a matter of time before I in no uncertain terms tell him to stop making his problems my problem. Would I be an asshole if I did?