The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Old-Examination9379 on 2024-10-13 02:42:04.
Disposable account because other members of my family know my account. English is not my native language so please excuse any grammatical mistake.
Hi everyone, I (F21) live with my parents and my sister (16) in a 4-story house. For more than half a year I have had this problem where I am on a different floor from my sister and I raise my voice a little to call her but she doesn't hear me no matter how many times I try, or sometimes she only answers after 5 or more attempts and when I asked her she would just say that I didn't raise my voice enough and on other occasions she also scolded me because according to her, she couldn't hear what I was saying to her even when we were in the same room.
One time I fell down the stairs and one of my legs hurt a lot but she never responded, I managed to get up and manage the pain but I had to tell my parents what had happened so they could take me to the doctor and it turned out that I had a second degree sprain.
I told my parents this and we decided to sit down and talk to my sister. We met in the living room and my parents asked her what was going on. At first my sister insisted that it was my fault but my parents told her that they didn't have that problem, then she changed her answer saying that she was using headphones and maybe she didn't hear me but my parents didn't believe her and kept insisting.
In the end she exploded and said that she did it on purpose because I always called her for stupid things and that she was fed up, my mother asked what kind of stupid things. She was silent for a moment and then said that I made her do all the chores around the house. So she just pretended that she didn't hear me. She even seemed proud that it worked like a charm. My parents yelled at her a lot and grounded her. But I was and still am very hurt, so for the last 3 weeks I haven't said a word to her. Nothing.
Her school makes a compilation of videos for graduating students, where their families congratulate them, it's a very emotional moment but I have refused to participate. My parents think I'm taking this too far and she has yelled at me saying that I need to move on. Even her friends have flooded my messages saying I'm a terrible sister and I need to grow up. But my friends say that my sister made her bed and now she can lay down on it.
Am I being unreasonable?
Edit: Since I see some people telling me that I take advantage of my sister and give her all my homework, it's actually the other way around, this is the response I wrote to someone. The things I ask her to do are literally her part of the homework. It's not that she does it whenever she wants, but she never does anything. So I end up doing everything or else my parents will yell at us for not doing it. They yell at both of us, no matter that I've done my part.
Edit 2: Moving is not an option, I'm finishing college but I have student debt to pay and, I don't know what it's like where you live, but in my country moving young is not that easy.
Edit 3: again, this is one of my answers: i think you all are imagining some huge 4 story american style house or something, but my house is actually pretty small, also, when i call her it’s almost always from the first floor, her room is on the second floor and right next to the stairs, i don’t have to yell for her to hear me. My room is also in front of hers, there’s no hallway between us just the space taken up by the stairs, even at that distance she would ignore me. I started raising my voice because when I asked her if she couldn't hear me, she would tell me that I was speaking too quietly, so it was my fault. I didn't start yelling just because I was angry or something. She told me that that was the problem.