The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Trixosoublakas on 2024-10-12 23:10:01.
I (19,F) started university last year in the city that I live. I wanted socialize and have groups of friends I could hang out with but, I also wanted to be consistent with my studies and pass most of my classes.
In my second semester, I met a group of people that I hanged out a bit in uni, went out 2-3 times and talked a bit through a group chat that we made. But after a month or so, it seemed like I was the only one asking to go out and no one seemed to stay true to their word because they always seemed to cancel last minute after agreeing to our plans days before. They also seemed to stop coming to classes and only interacted with me when they needed notes or to ask questions about classes. I respected the fact that they maybe couldn't come because sometimes they were working or too bored, but it was just something that they seemed to do too often to be excused all the time. I tried my best to answer nicely but at the same time show that I am not interested in being their source of university news and information by saying quotes like "the teacher will talk about this topic next class, come if you are interested" or "the website has news posted about X topic". And that resulted into us not speaking after a while, the groupchat slowly becoming inactive and so on.
But now, months after not interacting at all, my third semester started and so did my lectures. I was attending a difficult class when one of the girls from the group came up and sat next to me being all nice and happy. I didn't really entertain any conversation because I was trying to take notes (mind you, it was a 3 hour lecture with no breaks) and she didn't seem to have brought any bag with notebooks inside and just sat at her phone until the very end of the lecture. When the class finally ended, she just left without saying another word and I didn't get the chance to even try and see if I could maybe hang out with her or just talk.
Now, a week later, she texts me asking me for the notes I took. I responded with a short message saying that we haven't interacted in months, that I don't really consider us friends anymore and that I think she is just using me because she didn't want to sit and actually take notes herself even though she came to class.
She answered saying i was the one who cut her and the group off and that I should consider her asking for my notes, a compliment. She later added that she believes that my negative reaction to her asking for notes is childish and I should reconsider how highly I view myself.
I told her that she is delusional and maybe come to class and take her own notes instead of slacking off and then blaming everyone but herself when she isn't passing her classes.
AITA?