The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/dr-milo on 2024-10-12 03:43:03.
I (20F) have a sister (23F) who is currently pregnant. We found out in March and we could not be more excited. She decided to throw a baby shower, and so me and my mom (50f) bought a whole bunch of things for her. For context, my sister lives where Hurricane Milton hit, and so leading up toward the day we planned to leave (we live a couple states away, which is about a 12 hour drive not taking into consideration stopping for gas and bathroom.), we made sure to constantly check on the Hurricane patterns so we would know whether or not to postpone or leave day. When Hurricane Milton became a Category 5 and evacuation orders were put in place, her husband asked her if they want to reschedule the baby shower so everyone can get there safely, including me and my mom. She said “No, I’m tired of hearing about the hurricane, the weather is supposed to be beautiful after the hurricane. I’m not canceling.”
Hurricane Milton hits landfall, and their area is completely flooded and there’s debris everywhere. They lost power as well as a lot of their friends and family. Still, despite this, baby shower on.
Flash forward to today. We woke up around 2 in the morning to pack up our truck to head to Florida. The first couple hours go by smoothly, and then we end up getting stuck in traffic for two hours because of a wreck. That pushed our ETA back two hours. As we get closer, we are faced with more and more traffic of people returning from hurricane evacuation, and our ETA begins to reach into the late hours of the evening. Our final ETA was 1 AM before we hit a breaking point.
Me and my mom both were beyond exhausted. She was bobbing her head at the wheel and her eyes kept closing as we drove. Me, I was so exhausted and nauseated that I was hallucinating. However, we still had a good three hours of our trip left. After I told her we have to park somewhere, we ended up parking at a truck stop. My sister then calls my mom to check on her, and says “Tell (My Name) to get her fucking ass in the driver’s seat and drive.” My mom answers, “Honey, (my name) is just as exhausted as I am and she’s also autistic, she’s never driven a truck this size before.” (For context: yes I am autistic, and my dad has one of those absolutely massive chevy trucks where I can literally stand in it if I bend my body.)
This is where I start to lose it because I’m loopy and I’m extremely overwhelmed with everything. I tell my sister “You could have easily rescheduled this for another day. A hurricane literally blew through your town, people died, people lost their homes. We are doing all we can.”
She hasn’t responded to me. Currently I’m staying awake with my mom at a truck stop making sure she gets some sleep. I’m so close to passing out I don’t even know how I’m writing this. But I feel like I kinda went too hard on her.. I mean, she’s my sister and she’s pregnant. She didn’t evacuate for the hurricane because she said it wasn’t that big of a deal, and that she was tired of hearing about it.
AITA?
EDIT: Y’all, I posted this to get some helpful advice, not get DMs where I’m called slurs and told to “get a normal brain” because I mentioned a disability I have. Please don’t send me these things. I know it’s hard for some people to comprehend, but respect goes a long way.
EDIT 2: Currently driving to my sister’s house.. We have less than an hour before we’re there and the traffic seems to be less congested. Not a religious person whatsoever but let’s hope that some force out there is strong today and on my side.
UPDATE: We arrived safely at my sister’s house. Any kind of problems or drama have all just blown over because we’re all just happy to be together safely.