Long story short, I have had this friend who I’ve known for about 10 years now, and we always talked about being involved in each other’s weddings. We use to be really close friends, but the last couple of years we have really drifted apart. She got married at a courthouse and didn’t have me involved with her day, and now I’m getting married this upcoming August. Over the last couple of years after I got engaged, we would talk about her being a bridesmaid, but I never formally asked her due to my uncertainty if I wanted to have her apart of my day. For a number of various reasons, I had decided that I wanted people in my wedding party (which is only going to be three people since my Fiancė is only having three groomsmen) who have supported me and have been there for me these past couple of years in my wedding party, and she wasn’t one of those people. I politely sent her a text the other day letting her know my Fiancė and I were keeping our wedding party small, and even though she wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid, I still wanted her involved in my big day. Annnnnd it didn’t go well 😅, she feels replaced and doesn’t know where we go from here as friends. But, it is my day, and I should be able to choose who I want to be up by my side on my day.