The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Torc_Soulburn on 2024-10-12 14:14:09.
Four years ago, during the pandemic, I came across a twitch channel. For obvious reasons I will not reveal her username. Over time we had become pretty good friends, we got eachothers jokes/movie and music references, and generally just had alot of fun! The friendship grew and I thought for once, perhaps I found a true friend. Fast forward to about a year ago. She decides to start dating someone she met online, and I REALLY tried to be friendly n shit with him.
Now, for context, my "friend" was pretty adamant on being politically correct and accepting, not allowing hatespeech, bullying etc on their channel/discord. Things were fine until I heard him use the N word several times, along with other derogatory words and slurs. When I said something to her about it, I became the bad guy.
That probably started his resentment towards me. He would get jealous and salty when she and I had inside jokes or laughed together, to the point where his main interaction with me was either making fat jokes at my expense, and overall just taking shots at me whenever he could. He justifies his use of the N word because "he grew up in the hood" -- in today's society, is it acceptable for someone who is NOT BLACK to behave in such a way?
After months of observing so many red flags and with her either blind to it or just won't acknowledge it... I spoke up. I called her out and basically tried to get her to see this dude is a piece of shit. KEEP IN MIND I am not romantically interested in her, I just thought we were damn near besto friendos. After I said my piece, I was banned, blocked, exiled.
Nobody was willing to speak truthfully to her and after my execution, likely no one ever will again. Nobody is gonna see this, and likely won't be believed since she has likely spun some bullshit story to her community why I'm suddenly gone. Am I the asshole?