Some good interactions here. Cant speak to the emotional content because I wasn't present. Emotions are messy, who knows what happened between you two.

All I can say is that the relevant parties saw your conditions of living and recognized them as the risk factors that they are. You living well, and choosing that life, is a pleasant outcome. But they can't know that without doing a follow-up assessment. For all they know, you're living in your car scraping up railroad spikes to buy today's heroin.

Highly disagree with the advice to lie to your doctor. As long as you are not a danger to others, making explicit threats to harm yourself, or harming a child, and as long as you're following the laws, then they can't force you to get services.

Next time, just tell them that you've already been assessed and were found to not be at risk. And if someone stops by, be friendly... they're doing a really hard job that puts a lot of good into the world for a lot of people. Take any pamphlets they got cuz it might be useful knowledge. Educate yourself, etc. And keep on truckin! Thanks for the post.

I tell them that I'm doing fine.

That's what most/all of their clients say at first. Especially alcoholics or other addicts do not admit that they need help.

So maybe you should emphasize this point a little more, so that they believe you right from start.

Where do you shower? Do you have a job? If not, how do you get food, money for gas etc.?

youre an outlier. an anomaly. you have to admit most people do not live that way, and many that do dont want to.

they are just doing their job based on the numbers, and there is no reason to take it personally.

Because they have 50 more people to see in the next 7 hours and some dipshit wasted their time scheduling them to drive out into the middle of fucking nowhere to see some dude that's already told the last 6 people he doesn't need them and 90% of people (even in the mental health field) don't have enough insight into their own thought processes to correctly target their frustrations. I don't even nail it every single time but I've generally speaking had good results by just making sure to always "punch upwards" so to speak.

Living in an SUV is often the first step to really needing their help. Housing insecurity is a quick road to pretty rough living. If you are in their system, in their eyes, they can actually act quickly and help you when the likely next step happens. Not being in the system is pretty slow to get help in most places.

It's because most people wouldn't want to live in an SUV. If that's what you like though then more power to you! The social worker was probably upset because your doctor called them all the way out there telling them that you needed help immediately and when you said you didn't want help they felt they had wasted their time. It's really the doctor they should be mad at I guess for calling them out there for nothing

It's clear by your post and comments that you're living in a SUV due to your lifestyle, not due to deprivation.

So let's get practical:

1. Don't mention to doctors that you live in a SUV; if possible/reasonable to do so, lie.
2. If you must mention it, let clear that you live in it out of a conscious choice, it's your lifestyle, and you don't want social workers bugging you.
3. If a social worker pops up, highlight the fact that you're being buggered over and over by social workers, and that you do not want to change your lifestyle.

Beyond that, it is not your problem any more. And that includes their emotional state.

Now, on why they do it. Frankly, I don't know, but if I had to guess:

A lot of people who desire to help others don't really do so because they want a better world; they do it for the sake of their own fee fees, because they want to feel like a good person who helps others out. As such, they're willing to violate the others' agency and consent and force their "help" down your throat, even if they aren't actually helping jack shit but being just a burden; and they get really pissy when you correctly highlight that they are not helping and impose some boundaries. (inb4 "but I have good intentions" - go pave Hell with them dammit.)

That is not just social workers, mind you. You see people like this in all professions and environments. However, I believe that there's a disproportionate large amount of those among social workers due to the nature of their job, simply because social work is all about helping others out.

Couple that with bureaucracy. There's a high chance that your info is in some database as "refused help". Guess how someone who, unlike you, needs and wants help but declines it due to pride would get into that database? "Refused help". So the next social worker checking your entry will see it as someone who potentially might want and need help.

I blame this mostly on the doctor. The doctor should've asked you if you wanted to speak with someone about your situation, but lots of doctors prefer to just make decisions for people rather than ask.

The rest of the blame lies with the social worker, who sounds like a bad social worker. Active listening is Social Work 101, and it sounds like she didn't do that.

Maybe your doctor's office is full of people who are bad at their jobs. I recommend against extrapolating anything about these professions as a whole from your two experiences there.