Congrats on the self-confidence, my dude! I still fret about my appearance from time to time, but y'know? Yeah, kinda, I know what you mean. Do you smile more? Because happy looking people look more attractive and that might be making you like your photos more.
Wouldn't say I smile more, but I do frown less.
My brother in testosterone, as a cis man, this is the manliest comment I've ever heard.
Currently I inspect every picture for every little possible change due to HRT 😅 4 months now!
How long did it take to get to that point? I'm 7 - 8 months in and it feels like I'll never not see every little detail that makes me not pass ðŸ˜
Cant say for them, and im sure everybody has different experiences, but hrt is a long term thing.
I started when i was nearly 35, and am at about 9 months. Im just starting now to actually catch certain angles in the mirror where i no longer hate everything and thing hmmm maybe some things are better. Certainly a long way from really being happy, but moving in the right direction
I think the dysphoria distorts my self-perception, certainly about my own voice but I think also about the way I look. The only time I like my reflection right now is little glimpses I see in the reflection off random surfaces like the microwave or my phone screen when it is off. The fuzzy image is better, but a mirror makes me sad.
I'm nearly 3 years in. Still not a huge fan of photos (that's mainly because I'm bad at making myself smile, i.e. not dysphoria) but I remember around that time, for the first time in my life, being able to look in the mirror and not absolutely hate what I saw. It's only gotten better from there!
Yeah kind of. I still hyper focus on a few parts of my face that give me dysphoria, but overall I am a lot happier with my appearance than I used to be.
You're most beautiful when you're comfortable with yourself. There's no point checking every little detail, as long as you like yourself overall, I would say.
Same, but for me, it came with a change on perspective on passing too. I live in a safe area, and I found that once I started passing, I felt invisible to the queer folk that I didn't want to be invisible to. And that meant that I didn't fixate on things in the way I had previously
For sure. At first I really needed to be in the right mindset to be able to see myself. I only saw myself in my eyes occasionally.
And now, in transition, it's the other way around. It's more like gender dysphoria gets triggered occasionally and wreaks havoc. And I am trying to figure out what triggers this so I can avoid it.
For example a while back I had to sign a contract, so I had to use my dead name. This fucked me up for a good week.
When I first stare at my upper lip in the mirror, I see an unmistakable shadow and the roots. However, when I close my eyes for a second and reframe it in the context of my entire face, it basically disappears.
I realize that I won't be able to accurately judge myself; that I'll always see problems no one else does. I just need do my best and move on, as I'll never think the work is done otherwise. I do better at most things when I give a good effort and don't worry about my shortcomings.
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Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on