this post was submitted on 30 Jun 2024
102 points (94.0% liked)

Ask Lemmy

26903 readers
2032 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions

Please don't post about US Politics. If you need to do this, try [email protected]


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either [email protected] or [email protected]. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email [email protected]. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 

I'm having some personal issues causing some severe depression and anxiety. I'd like to get past this time as fast as possible, and my days are dragging on. I can't sleep, which would be a good way to make time go fast. But I also can't just play video games, I don't have the motivation to play more than a few minutes and it also just makes me realize how alone I am with no friends or anyone I can connect with emotionally and I spiral into my anxiety and depression.

I can do stuff during the day, run, chores, etc. But as soon as I'm done, especially at night, I start freaking out and it seems like time stands still. Does anyone have any suggestions? Activities I can do that are mindless that will just kill time and get me through the night before I can just go to sleep?

I know this question is stupid but I'm looking for at least somewhat serious answers.

(page 2) 50 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

I can think of three things:

  1. ~~Gaming~~
  2. Contributing to opensource
  3. Learning something new
[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I find it hard to contribute to some projects because I don't understand the overall architecture but I think contributing to unit testing is pretty simple. You just need to understand the smallest units of work, not the whole thing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Contributing is not limited to writing code. Sometimes it is finding bugs and reporting them. Sometimes it is just telling people about project.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I smoke weed and watch TV. I also take Zoloft every day and it works pretty well at minimizing my intrusive thoughts too (which mostly happen at night) so it's like multi-pronged for me.

Idk, if you've been going through this for a while and nothing in this thread works, you could look into antidepressants; you don't have to be on them forever. A lot of the common ones are somewhat affordable without insurance.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

I had been on zoloft for a while but stopped a few years ago. I actually just started again very recently. We'll see if that works.

Weed doesn't help for me, it makes me more anxious. TV also helps for a little bit

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

You need to sort our bed time routine out.

Don't do anything in bed other than sleep (or sex). Go to bed try to sleep, if you don't sleep get up and go to another room and come back in half an hour, an hour whatever it takes. Try sleep again if that doesn't work after a bit get up again. I actually find going for a pee and trying again works surprisingly well. Take your TV out of your room, don't use your phone in bed, don't exercise in your bedroom and don't exercise late and night.

Try the military sleep method.

If you want time to waste on something, do a jigsaw or scale model.

Join a board game group.

Watch The World at war 1973. Best ww2 doc ever made and its 26 episodes long. That will waste some time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Procrastinating... I feel, whenever I postpone something for tomorrow, days fly by faster than usual.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

Having a due date for a project or work assignment that you procrastinate really makes time move way too quickly

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

Get a job in building construction.

You work hard, you work together with people, you start your day early and you get tired in the evening.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Come over and help me and my wife with all our house projects and yard work. We don't have time for everything we want to do.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

Where do you live

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

Binging TV isn't pretty or healthy but it does definitely help time travel past those sad times in your life where you need time to heal

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I used to watch favorite TV shows, long series, and try sleeping as early as possible. Watching shows is so passive and easy that it ends up working well. It's really important to have fun and get good sleep, so I suggest focusing on that until you figure it out.

load more comments (1 replies)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

start working on a social experience VR app, with an acquaintance that could become a friend.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (3 children)

I've been listening to a great book series called dungeon crawler carl on audible..there's like 6 books and they are pretty long .that could eat up time.. I listen to them whilst exercising

load more comments (3 replies)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Im a huge advocate for fitness and diet for people who are having trouble with mental health. Because it gives you something you can nerd out on, control, research and if it sticks its a huge net positive for your life.

Figuring out your macros, setting yourself a step goal, designing a functional diet, doing some basic weight training even with just bodyweight exercises.

It also has the advantage of quite often leaving you tired at the end of the day. I can recommend some resources if you like.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

People say exercise makes your brain grow. But that’s the wrong way to look at it. Sitting around all day makes your brain atrophy.

It’s so hard to be mentally healthy when your brain atrophies.

load more comments (1 replies)
load more comments
view more: ‹ prev next ›