A cat girl dmed me and offered cuddles :3
this post was submitted on 09 Jun 2024
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Pretty meh so far, at least until tonight before I got off work: shortly before closing, I had an asshole come up, buy some cigarettes (I work at a gas station), and then and only then after having finished his transaction, turns to me and says, "Just so you know, there're only two genders."
I responded with, "Just so you know, I don't care." and then he flipped me the bird without even looking at me as he was walking away.
This is not the first time this has happened to me, and I try to put on a tough face to these dick-waffles, but honestly, it still hurt me and I hate how I'm emotionally vulnerable to it, even if I don't show it to them. :(
I bet the guy wasn't sober when he did that. He probably still thinks that way -- alcohol doesn't make people lie, it makes them far too honest -- but realized the next day that the way he had acted was screwed up.
Thinking about going back to therapy because my flashbacks/anxiety attacks have been through the roof the past week. The meds I’m on have been great for my anxiety generally, I just haven’t been able to find a reliable way to shut down the prolonged adrenaline surges and the fear sweats (ew).
I feel pretty good despite all that, which is part of why I know the meds are still working; instead of spiraling when I start panicking I’m just going ‘damn this sucks’ and cuddling my cat and/or husband. Annoyingly knowing that doesn’t fix the panic!
How have other transfems come out or explore their femininity more openly when they don't look remotely feminine? I've been on HRT for 7 months or so, and I just don't look feminine. I look a little more feminine than I did, but still not enough to be even close to looking natural or comfortable in feminine expression. It just... doesn't look right. And that makes me feel weird which makes it look even worse.
I don't want to come out to people, telling them that I feel like a woman, when I look and sound like a man. And it's starting to limit me in doing feminine things that I need to do to look more feminine so it's circular, I'm too insecure to book a hair or nail appointment because I look like a man. I hate all of it.
I've told some friends and have started trying a more fem voice when playing with them in discord. Been growing my hair out and trying more fem dressing styles, but still look pretty masc I think. I can never get a shave close enough you can't see stubble. Been wearing a trans flag pin out and about!
I don’t want to come out to people, telling them that I feel like a woman, when I look and sound like a man.
I understand where that comes from, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't think the same way when I started transitioning. I pretty much never corrected people when they misgendered me, because I didn't want to get in their way. I felt as if I hadn't earned being a woman yet. Now I understand that gender isn't something you earn. You deserve being treated for who you are, despite how you look or sound like.
I’ve been on HRT for 7 months or so, and I just don’t look feminine.
HRT is basically puberty 2.0, and puberty takes many, many years to complete. I know how frustrating it is to wait for the changes, but that should also give you hope. Even if you don't like how you look now, that can and probably will change over the years.
Thank you for this, your support really helped.
I joined a dancing class!
I got blood work done and will hopefully get a referral for HRT :3
Getting blood work done would be both terrifying and exciting for me; family medical history has numerous heritable issues and I'm not sure I want to find out if I've got some. History of diabetes and a VERY wide variety of heart and blood pressure issues, sleep apnea, degenerative joint and muscle issues, etc