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[–] [email protected] 24 points 5 months ago

Speaking on my wife's behalf, an epipen. We're both content with not having needed to use it.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Probably 500+ bottles of expensive wine, more possibly even. Some of it was free, but most not, and it's all crammed into a 2 bedroom apartment turning to vinegar because it's improperly stored. Sometimes life circumstances mean you can't drink much anymore. So it's pretty much a waste and hugely embarrassing.

Never tie your finances to that of a crazy liar.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Never tie your finances to that of a crazy liar.

I'm invested and would like to read the rest of the story..

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (3 children)

In a nutshell I married a person who has destroyed me financially a few times over, and I cannot leave because I don't have the money. He's sort of like a narcissist (like in that vein, not fully but definitely very mentally disturbed), and he decided to get into wine and buy massive quantities simply to make me angry and ruin my life out of spite, after he destroyed my mental health. We had storage space for it at the previous house but got evicted by a landlord who took it back for his family member, and now I live crammed into a two bedroom apartment with 78 boxes of wine that I seldom if ever drink. He ensures he gets everything he wants in life, even when I was down to owning 3 pairs of pants.

It's incredibly sad and depressing and I can do virtually nothing about it but drag myself between both jobs, spending zero dollars save for my survey money, while he sits on the couch watching hockey 3 hours a night. I have no support and no way out but praying I somehow find time and a plan to make my own business and make enough money to dig out and find somewhere to hide from him.

If you have a red flag in a relationship, run. Not worth it.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I'm so sorry. Can you not sell some of the wine? Would he notice if it was a smaller collection? Just a reminder that financial abuse is abuse, control is abuse, there are shelters for people who are being abused which will get you out of that environment.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)

He notices if I so much as eat a bowl of cereal he thinks is his alone. Or forget to bring home the knife I took to work to eat lunch with. Or anything. You've never met someone so territorial. Once I left my bottle of work hand lotion on the kitchen table after a 16 hour shift and he threw it up the stairs and it burst everywhere, and when I had a screaming fit told me it was my fault for being inconsiderate.

Not kidding. And I can't leave because I'd never let my dogs get hurt and they sure don't let you take them to shelters. He'd haunt me to the ends of the earth anyway.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

There are 100% shelters that let you take pets, there's also organisations that foster pets for people escaping abuse.

The statement about haunting you to the end of the earth is a giant red flag. You need to get away. He's dangerous.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

This is abuse, leave. Take the dogs for a walk, go to a friend's house and call a lawyer or the cops or a womens' agency. Yes everything will be shit for awhile, get a restraining order and file for legal relief from the debt, you may even be able to sue him for relief of the debt, and if he used your credit without your ok, that is fraud and also illegal.

I know you feel you don't have the mental strength to leave but if you can survive staying, you definitely do have the strength.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (5 children)

My gf had been in sort of a similar situation. You need to get out. At all costs. Even if you have to leave the dogs.

He will just do whatever he needs to do to keep you desperate and on his leash. So no matter what you do, he won't met you save money, he won't give you a chance to get away ever.

The controlling behavior servers to keep you there at his disposal.

He is not going to change. You will have too. So get of your ass and leave. It's the only chance you have for a real life again. If you don't, you basically submit and accept that this will be your life forever.

I know that things may seem hopeless, but the situation you are in is affecting the way you think. You can get away, you can have a normal life but you have to decide that it is over and commit to getting away.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

Thanks for sharing. Hop you find a way out of that terrible situation.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

There are ways out. Find a women’s shelter. Just go.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Some of that can sell at auction, I work on a house where the lady inherited about $300,000 of wine.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

I would be hanging from a lamppost somewhere if I tried it.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

I got a pretty nice Yamaha bluray player that was an appropriate match to my home theatre amp.

Put a bluray in it, got a piracy warning, a few unskippable ads for other movies, an obnoxious excessively drawn out animated menu screen that stuttered like hell and was laggy to use.

Pulled the bluray back out of it, stuck it back in the DVD drawer and proceeded to download a copy of the movie to watch. Been doing that ever since.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Wanted to re-watched something I couldn't find on torrents in good quality, so I bought a cheap Blu-ray player and holy shit it was painful.

I'd forgotten how annoying all the warnings and menus were; JUST PLAY THE BLOODY SHOW!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

As great as just playing the show is, I actually really like DVD/Blu-ray menus because of the little extras you get on some of them. It makes the disk feel more special compared to straight up video files on a storage device. The warnings can be a little annoying, but otherwise I don't mind as much.

Also, I'm lucky enough to have yet to find a DVD/Blu-ray that stutters or has audio glitches on the Vizio Blu-ray player I got at a thrift store, so I'm lucky.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

The deleted scenes and commentary audio tracks were cool, but idk if I'd actually watch any of it now. I heard years ago that there's a whole system for "MST3King" a movie manually with community commentary tracks that effectively do the same thing and I've never cared enough to figure out how to set it up and try one, so I don't know if I'd ever actually watch a DVD commentary even if I had the option.

Maybe it would be cool for Taskmaster, since I've seen every episode so many times and continue to rewatch it? But I rarely re-watch anything anymore. And I don't think TV shows got commentary tracks anyway.

And deleted scenes could probably just be found on YouTube, I assume? I don't know because I haven't cared enough to search, lol.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

Sony really knows how to fuck up an experience and shove their own consumer around

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago (3 children)

First edition, first run of the three Lord of the Rings books.

I can’t bring myself to open them up and mess with the pages.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I mean, yeah. The point of collectibles like that is in owning the thing, not using the thing. Read the ebook instead.

Or the BBC radio play, which is the best version of LotR ever, including the original books and films, and I'll die on that hill.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

But you bought a reading copy as well, right?

Right?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

The duality of book owning.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (9 children)

A pool. It came with the house, but damn is it expensive to maintain. I say I've never gotten full use out of it because I spend way more time and energy maintaining it, than I do using it.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (4 children)

A pair of traditional leather boots that were stiff and sturdy enough to support me through anything and last long enough to be buy it for life. The pair weighed over 5 pounds. After 6 months they still hurt after a hike and I gave up breaking them in. Cost me over 300€, and I replaced them with a pair of 80€ trail running shoes which were better in every way for my use case and also lasted 12 years.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I have a college degree I have never used. It wasn't cheap even tho much of it was paid with grants.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

My 6-foot-tall telescope. I should really pull it out more, I just get so busy.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (2 children)

My house. There has never been a point in time where there was not at least one room unusable due to ongoing renovation.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)

As someone who has been in the 3d printing space for awhile, I am amazed at how cheap and featured the entry level printers are. For ~$150 you can get a printer with auto bed leveling and a magnetic bed. At $15/lb of filament, you only need a few projects to pay for itself.

For example, I printed the housing for a USB hub for a friend which is a clone for a ridiculously expensive one that fits Lovesac couches and he paid me $50. It cost ~$2 of filament and ended up printing a few more for others. That alone paid for the cost of the printer.

For anyone who is thinking about it, now is a great time to enter the hobby.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Get to it! Such a fun hobby

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I bought some kit for running TTRPGs just before COVID hit: wet erase markers, Chessex mat, extra dice bags, DM screen, and some cheap minis. Then when COVID hit I adopted a Virtual tabletop (Foundry). Over the course of the pandemic, my gaming group evolved to include people from all over the province, and so now there's not really any hope of playing an in-person session. Not to mention I switched to playing PF2E, which is really hard to run in-person because of how much crunchier it is. So now I have this stuff and don't really know when I will get to use it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I've just built a $1200 PC and I'm pretty sure I don't really use the fraction of its power.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

An ecoflow battery generator. Granted, it's a small-ish one but I got this itch to purchase one after seeing one in action while car camping ("I can use my hot water kettle while camping, how cool!") and when our city was warning us about widespread power outages from an upcoming winter storm ("to keep our devices powered up").

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

I bought an $800 half stack guitar amplifier in 2009 and rarely play with the volume above 1, let alone play shows with it. But it looks neat.

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