My 11 yo daughter is "graduating" lower school tomorrow. My ex wife texted me mid week last week and said she thinks we should do something for our daughter after graduation. I said "sure" and on Friday, she offered to host a party at her place. That was fine by me, and she asked if I could bring a cooler of ice with some beer and I agreed. I think the party is small maybe 3-5 other kids and some parents.
I told my girlfriend(18months) about the graduation and the after-party on Sunday morning, two days after the plans were made. I made the mistake of saying "My ex wife and I" were hosting a party for the kids. She got really upset with me that
- I didn't consult her and that by having the party at my ex's it somewhat excluded her due to the awkwardness of my ex wife around my gf.
- She feels ignored and that I'm favoring the ex wife and her feelings. She thinks my ex is using her power to gain my attention. ( I have no feelings for my ex, fwiw)
From my perspective, a lower school graduation is kind of a non event. My girlfriend might want to go, maybe not. She is very close with my kids but going to their "events" is a more recent thing. I can see her side of it because I wasn't thinking of her when agreeing to the after party at my ex's. However, it doesn't seem she see's my perspective on this and is making a very big deal of this and we are in a fight over it. AITH?