Constant scrolling social media on your phone gifting you with small doses of dopamine causes this. I used to read a book every two weeks few years ago and I have reached a point recently where books were boring, movies were too long so I watched series only. Realization is the first step. Now you have to make steps to change this. I have swapped bedtime phone scrollig to reading and books again and lowered my daytime phone usage. I have also watch some educational youtibe videos instead of scrolling some social media. It has helped a lot and now I'm back into reading and much more patient.
this post was submitted on 20 Aug 2023
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My wife spends an incredible time scrolling through TikTok and instagram reels but she is perfectly capable on sitting through 10 hours a day to watch a dorama, still I have a hard time finishing a movie when I barely use social media
Watch? We watch movies now?
Start movie. Title sequence rolls, immediately tab out because loading screen. Fine, stuff is happening. Ugh, setup/framing scenes. Need coffee. Pause. Kettle on. May as well wait until I've made the coffee so I don't have to break the flow again. I'll just quickly mine some dopamine on the net while i'm waiting. Oh fuck the kettle's boiling. Oh fuck? Oh, right. Procrastinating a thing makes it stressful, it's turned into an obligation and therefore a threat. Okay, fine, I'll get to it, I'll just oh it's 2am.
Yea I love movies but yea sometimes it can be tough.
Tbh getting high helps lol
But then you're on a whole other level. But true sometimes it slows the brain down a little. CBD is great too.
I don't get too high, just a little but enough for me to just wanna sit and relax
I'm the only one in my family who can actually do that.
Everyone else keeps checking their phone, talking over each other, getting up every ten minutes to do something, which makes watching a movie with my family the most frustrating thing on earth.
It's the one thing I can focus on, and they make it unnecessarily hard for me.
Damn, I'm the same way but that movie kept me engaged the whole time. the blends of animation style was mesmorizing.
Ironically I guess I wasn't in the mood. We own it I'll try and watch it again sometime.
That could definitely be it. Honestly I'd wait for part 2 to release before rewatching it.
12 hour YouTube video, love it, 2 hour film, cannot
LOL right!?!!?
As long as I've got no distractions around me at all (like a cinema) or as long as I have access to the distractions so I can multi-task (like on a PC at home). But if I'm at home, trying to watch a movie, without doing anything else, it's next to impossible. If it's a rewatch, it's completely impossible
My god. This is me. I mostly only sit down to watch tv/movies in the evenings… and that’s probably when my adhd meds wear off… but I press pause and get up and down so often. I even annoy myself. Forget watching with my kids. They groan and give me the side eye whenever I say I need to go grab something etc..
I’ve also noticed, the more anxiety producing the show/movie is… the more I have to press pause and leave the room. Suspenseful? Horror? Car chase? Heist? Yup… mom’s gotta get up 20 times… 😑
I can barely handle a 8 minute online video
But I can listen to a podcast. But I'm usually doing something else at the time.
The only time I can listen to podcasts is on road trips. Anywhere else and I get distracted with something else and then I absorb none of it.
1.5x default speed
I keep getting up to go work on a (perpetually unfinished) hobby project half way through most movies. For some reason most movies are the least entertaining entertainment possible. (Ofc better than staring at a wall)
It's too much work to find a movie on Amazon Prime. So I don't watch them very often.
TV? Haha.. what is TV?
I have to watch the whole movie uninterrupted. Pausing disturbs me, but I have to be on my phone at the same time.
It was a perfect movie for me to watch as it didn't have any slow parts and kept things going so my attention span was engaged. I can't stand movies where they spend too much time talking and being boring.
Even high action. I can't
I can see some people having a hard time sitting through the Spider-verse movies since they're so flashy. But yeah sometimes when I'm watching a movie I have a hard time following along with everything. I sometimes have to tell myself that it's ok to glaze over and miss some details just so I don't stress myself out.
I really struggle, but with the recent and dramatic exception of the 2021 movie "Cow". I'd love to know if others find it as peaceful as I did.
It is a movie shot from the perspective of a cow.
There are no "words". Just following a cow. It's beautiful.