The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ConflictActive222 on 2024-05-19 18:10:13.
It's mother's day. I ask my husband playfully if he has anything planned. He wants to go to Chinese buffet. HE wants to. I think it's a waste of time and money going there with two little kids. There's nothing personal about. No fond memories will be made of it. I'll just be more stressed having to wrangle the kids anyway. I tell him we live in France now and technically mother's day is a week away. If he wants, he's got time to think of something else. Now you guys have to understand I'm not looking for anything expensive. I'm so simple to please. Even a planned picnic to the park where for once, just once, he packs the picnic and gets the kids ready and I just have to put my shoes on and come with. I'd be over the stinking moon. Just that he shows a pinch of effort. I feel like I'm so desperate for him to show that he's part of our family. Next week comes. He's printed off some old pics of my daughter and gave me some chocolate we already in our pantry. It would have been cute had that come solely from my daughter. But that was HIS gift to me? We visit his uncle and cousins. They ask me what I got for mother's day. I told them. Not in a harsh or condescending way. Just normally. They say aww sympathetically and move on with the conversation. He. Is. Livid. Fuming. We get home and makes sure I feel worse than he does. How much he does for the family. I'm not his mother. I'm useless. I'm annoying. Why did I say that in front of everyone. And all the while I thought he loved me because he'd come home from work, kiss me, eat dinner, I put the kids to bed and we watched something. Watching something with him is highlight of my day. Just spending a little time together. Okay not quality time but together. I spent the rest of night crying in the park. To hear how he thinks I'm annoying broke me. Is that why I see him always being so nice to other people? Why he says he's tired from work but jumps at the opportunity to go out for coffee anytime somebody calls? I should have just went to the buffet.