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I currently live with my parents. If I moved to a part of the country with lower cost of living (which I could feasibly do since I have a remote job) I could definitely afford to rent an apartment or even buy a condo by myself, but I know from previous experience that I don’t enjoy living alone and would probably get depressed.

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[-] [email protected] 23 points 5 months ago

Is it weird to want to live in community? No. Definitely not.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

It's nice at least experiencing living alone at some point, but yeah do whatever you want. Experience life, try new things, have a roommate, see the county - be weird if that's what it's called

[-] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

I've never lived alone and at this point I'm not sure I even could.

I've had roommates all through college and into my early career. Went from a year back home to rooming with an old high school friend. I moved in with my now-wife six months after we met, because she had started law school and couldn't afford to live alone. She was the fourth of five roommates living together before we started going our separate ways. The first was the best man at our eventual wedding.

Having roommates just feels good. I love living with other people. I love the constant opportunity to socialize. I love cooking big meals for a bunch of close friends, going to the gym together, planning vacations together, hostimg big parties with neighbors and other friends.

If you can find people you get along with, it would be crazy not to live with them.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

That's understandable, especially if you're looking to befriend them.

Me personally? I'd only be into doing that with a friend I'm already super chill with or a lover*. I already know a few friends who would be more chill to hang with than I would be hanging with by myself.

*We'd just be roommates, though, I swear!

[-] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

If I didn't live with other people I would go weeks without speaking to a human and I would probably stop cooking complete meals

[-] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

no. there are a lot of non-fiscal benefits to roommate/housemates. splitting household chores, sharing meals, covering each other's responsibilities during trips out of town, and even though you don't need to do it for financial reasons, the further reduction in living costs is awesome. almost all of the benefits are contingent on getting along with the person, which contributes to the uncertainty if its a stranger or whatever.

i've lived in a handful of different configurations, and the one i look back on with the most fondness is having 3 roommates in an older larger place with multiple common area hangout spots, in a walkable part of a city and we all got along/were friends. we all disliked our jobs, but we all liked coming home, hanging out, taking walks, and playing games with each other. it was like a sitcom. everybody had to move away from each other for professional opportunities after a year, unfortunately.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

I think it's not weird at all. If it helps you feel more comfortable, then it helps you feel more comfortable and there's nothing more to it. Being isolated drives me crazy too (even though I barely leave my room lmao) but I hate relationships so my genuine hope is to just find some sort of forever housemate.

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