If we aren't fighting over who pays the bill, we aren't friends and potentially we're enemies
this post was submitted on 02 Apr 2024
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idk how I feel about this, it's definitely not this cut-and-dried – it's situational but I've both been the friend who says no worries over coffee or food or whatever and the friend who says "hey pls pay me back the $30-50 for [movie/concert tickets, pricy thing we went in on together, etc.], thanks". but I'm also very much on the low end of income for software engineering (below six figures) and providing for a disabled spouse, which has me (probably unnecessarily) always at least low-grade stressed about money.
low end of income for software engineering (below six figures)
Yes, if you are in the US and you have been in the workforce for >1 year you are being severely underpaid, even for a low cost of living area and the current messed up job market. Check out https://levels.fyi.
It may also be that you have your reasons for staying at the place you're at but I like to let people know just in case. I was unknowingly being very, very underpaid and nearly tripled my salary after a colleague tipped me off.
you're not wrong, but I've interviewed for higher-paying positions and it's always incredibly stressful. I also work for a very small web hosting company (literally less than 10 employees) where everyone's chill and the owner doesn't make an insane amount of money compared to the rest of us, which just feels... I dunno, less awful than working for a big company where the CEO rakes in several orders of magnitude more than I do, somehow?
Im very generous with my money and resources, I just did something cool for my friends on Friday but my friends should want to help me pay for shit. I really dont want mooch friends.
I am very ok with the vague favours regime of debt, but I also know some very generous people who have been taken advantage of too much so that they insist on paying back their debts.
Also remember my broke-ass mum basically fighting with my aunt every time it was time to pay (for the privelige of paying) for gas money.