Makes sense. If you're willing to take advantage of others, you can get advantages.
And these days, retaliation against adult bullies is not so straight forward.
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Not to mention psychopathic tendencies are required to excel as an exec
Adult bullies are often idolized in our culture. They're certainly rewarded in corporate workplaces where abusing others and not caring is seen as a sign of purposefulness and strength.
Exactly... and on the flip side, standing up for workplace injustice is a sign of insubordination and is punished. Even objectively discussing power dynamics gets a negative/uncomfortable reaction in my experience.
What I'm gathering from this is I should become some sort of crazed vigilante, who goes and punches bullies in the face at playgrounds
And I completely disagree about handling adult bullies. It's quite straightforward. Just illegal.
Apparently punching children and assaulting adults with tire irons is "wrong" and "against the law"
Bullying bullies doesn't teach them that bullying isn't a path to power. It just teaches them that you're higher up in the chain than they are, for now.
Ohhh, punch them harder, got it.
I can understand putting a subjective word like "wrong" in air quotes, since that's a matter of judgement, not objectivity. But whether something is legal or illegal is usually pretty straightforward, and not subject to interpretation outside of a courtroom, and specifically by a judge or jury.
Average joe is not permitted to interpret the law however he thinks it ought to be interpreted, that would just be chaos.
My straight forward retaliation is do damage to them.
It's almost like capitalism is designed to make sociopathy the more successful survival strategy
I was thinking about this the other day. I think no matter the system those willing to break the rules and find the cracks will always do so.
It isn't a capitalism problem it is a human problem
Capitalism rewards cut-throat behavior. No surprises there.
I mean that's part of it but I think something that's being overlooked is the overall mentality.
A bully who is used to getting their way and getting what they want is probably not going to have a hard time negotiating for higher pay when it comes to a job. They're also probably more likely to leave a job that's unsatisfactory. They're also going to have higher levels of confidence.
Meanwhile I remember when I was a kid being told to keep my head down, keep my nose clean, don't make waves, work hard to be rewarded and get ahead... And that's just not how you get ahead.
Just a theory.
It would be the same in communism or any political system. Bullies will end up with the most influence.
Bullying is a part of British culture, the "yes m'lord" attitude is still strong within them, don't cause a fuss, "keep calm and carry on" is their motto for a reason...
https://theweek.com/101863/why-england-s-schools-are-among-worst-in-world-for-bullying
https://www.agencycentral.co.uk/articles/does-the-uk-have-a-workplace-bullying-problem/
As someone who has spent half their life in the UK and the other half in the USA, specifically the English are particularly nasty and have a strange admiration for the "clever bully", both in school and at work. That isn't to say the USA doesn't have bullies, they're just not as universally admired.
Ever watch a video of Trump talking about other people who he finds threatening?
100% schoolyard bully. Only difference is that he's not clever by adult standards.
bad comment, not a UK problem. this is c/science not “c/attack a nation people group because the study happened to be conducted in the UK”
The work tallies with previous research by economists including Nicholas Papageorge,who examined longitudinal studies in the UK and US in 2019 and found that “externalising” behaviour linked to aggression and hyperactivity was associated with lower educational attainment but higher earnings. (from the article)
uncomfortable with this being the headline and seems like without further research this could just be one of those confirmation bias things. seems to make some assumptions that we don’t know empirically such as:
- teachers in the 1980s were a good judge of character, fairly identifying who bullies whom
- that this aggressive behavior at 10 years old continues meaningfully into later life
not denying the scientific accuracy of the study, but the journalist integrity of making this the headline.
edit: you can read the original article here, and yeah the actual text of the summary vindicates my judgment of the Guardian article. the original authors frame it as an analysis of “socio-emotional skills,” not agression per se, because again, these kids are ten, not even in high school yet.
Brb going to bully preschoolers on the playground nearby then ask my boss for a raise.
but we were surprised to find a strong link between aggressive behaviour at school and higher earnings in later life
I do not see how a normal human adult who has ever, like, worked in a corporate environment or customer service or ever read the political section of a newspaper or even literally just caught secondhand wind of the 2016 US election would instinctively believe that aggressive behavior doesn't pay as an adult.
Either this person is a bully themselves, or we need to hook them up to some 19th century testing apparatus so we can extract whatever essence of naïveté and primal innocence they are apparently overproducing.
I’m just going to copy this here since it fits like a glove:
We are ruled by people of the dark triad. Pretty much every person of the 1% lacks compassion and remorse, is manipulative and often impulsive. Think about the fact that you have more money than you can ever spend, yet you accept that people around you are homeless.
These people keep winning and get worshipped like gods so others follow their lead and the world drops into an infinite „fuck you, I got mine“ loop, resulting already in destroying our ecosystem and climate.
We need to get these people out of power. Long term by educating the masses and short term by sabotaging them as much as we can.
"Who teachers felt had problems..." Oh. Teachers. Those people who comes in AFTER things has gone far past reasonable limits, and assigns blame based on whoever the majority of the class points out as the instigator. 😒
Right.
This whole article is fucking bizarre. They act as if teachers judgments of students is somehow akin to psychologist diagnosis.
Sounds like an excuse to bully disabled people or at least slow reform to me.
What’s up with all the regressionist stuff going on?
Isn't a bully just a baby bird trying to push another bird out of the nest?